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Ego Coaching & Immaturity Egotism and Maturity © Martyn Carruthers We help people access, assimilate and integrate split-off parts of themselves, including a part often called ego. We help people understand themselves, and each other, as a basis for healthy relationships and a healthy life. What is Ego? Ego simply means I in Latin, and indicates a sense of personal identity, an essential part of the system of interacting elements commonly called your mind. Sigmund Read more…

Managing Nervousness Solutions for Nervous & Shy People © Martyn Carruthers Would you like to feel good instead of feeling nervous and shy? Would you like to manage your anxiety and end self-sabotage? Nerves, Nervousness & Emotional Intelligence Is feeling nervous part of your life? Do you focus on your bad feelings, at the high price of peace, joy and healthy relationships? How can you get off the anxiety roundabout? Although nervousness and anxiety are Read more…

Mature & Healthy Relationships Recover after Relationship Problems © Martyn Carruthers Online coaching, counseling and training on mature recovery from relationship problems. Relationship Skills & Recovery Coaching There are no limits to the happiness of good relationships … … nor to the suffering of bad relationships. Although most people communicate to improve their relationships, to resolve conflicts and discuss sensitive issues peacefully, deficiencies of mature relationship skills can make any relationship difficult. Our recovery coaching Read more…

Soulwork Solutions: Coaching & Resistance Coaching Resistant Clients © Martyn Carruthers Have you ever been in a shop with a salesman who tried to sell you things that you did not want? Perhaps you were polite at first, but repeated sales ploys irritated you until you were angry. The salesman told his buddies about your terrible resistance. Resistance is Communication We have a primitive defense mechanism that forgets facts or dismisses theories that cause stress. Read more…

Alienated Family Members Resolving Estranged Relationships © Martyn Carruthers Relationship alienation hurts families and damages children. Reconnecting After Cutting Off Have you ever rejected a family member – or were you ever rejected? We help people who feel abandoned, estranged or “cut-off”. And we help people who have alienated family members. For many families, harmony seems an impossible dream. Wouldn’t life be so much better if your family was more like those happy families you Read more…

Solutions for Children’s Emotional Problems Solve Childhood Problems © Martyn Carruthers 1999 Prevent and Solve Children’s Emotional Problems Children who appear to lack concentration or curiosity, or who are a nuisance to teachers, may be labeled learning disabled – or worse. However, many troubled children are punished or medicated for expressing or reflecting their parents‘ immature behavior. This table is useful for understanding many consequences of emotional incest, parental alienation, vanishing twins and other family Read more…

After a Family Suicide Dissolving Emotional Chaos © Martyn Carruthers What can you do after a relative suicides … or tries to? I have helped many people deal with the suicides of parents, partners, siblings and children. Here are some of my lessons about suicides in the family. Healing a Family after a Suicide My mother killed herself when I was 12. Nearly 20 years later, I still feel guilty and confused. I felt isolated Read more…

End Self-Criticism © Martyn Carruthers 2009 Do you want to end self-sabotage or self-criticism? Do you damage your happiness and hurt your success? Do you want to untangle difficult emotions or relationships?   Also see: End Self-Criticism, End Depression & Emotional Incest  Do you Sabotage yourself? When things go well, do you throw away your success? Do you sabotage your friendships, potential partners, income or projects? Do you avoid being happy? Do you suffer from Read more…

Online Solutions for Stress Coping with Life’s Problems © Martyn Carruthers Do you want to manage negative emotions and solve relationship issues? Are you overloaded with stress? Does stress interfere with your study, work, relationships and family? Are you stuck in stress reactions, phobias, obsessions or compulsions? While many people adjust to stressful events and move on, do you react to stress with emotional or psychosomatic disease symptoms, which often cause health or relationship problems? Read more…

How to Solve Emotional & Relationship Problems Life Coaching & Family Counseling Algorithms We researched how healthy people manage emotions and solve relationship issues, and we created algorithms to replicate their success and end self-sabotage. We help people evaluate and resolve unwanted conflicts, beliefs and identify issues. Individual Coaching / Counseling Flowchart   Following relationship assessment and goal-work, we help people manage emotional issues and solve relationship problems. This can include resolving conflicts, changing limiting Read more…