Do you feel anxious? Do you feel overwhelmed? Do you worry unduly? Do you criticize yourself? Do you have a phobia?
Fear is an emotional response to a known threat,
Anxiety is a vague sense of apprehension.
While drugs are easier than applying intelligence and analytical skills, and are much more profitable for health professionals, drugs cannot change the relationship problems that generate most negative emotions.
Our coaching and counseling solutions for fear, anxiety and other negative emotions are very useful. While many people distract themselves from their emotions – leading to dissociation – we help people change their fears, stop worrying and manage anxiety.
Are you a champion self-critic? Some people are chronic worriers! We help many people “tame” their internal chatter and calm their inner dialog. We can help you manage your emotions and thoughts … if you choose.
Anxieties, worries and fears may offer illusions of increased protection (the more I worry the less likely it will happen) and a reality of increased risk. Preoccupied people may not notice immediate dangers.
Some common fears and anxieties include:
- Fear of death – are you anxious that you will die? Do you worry about the experience of death? This fear may cause you to avoid any risks to prolong your survival … or it may make you freeze or panic in dangerous situations.
- Fear of emptiness – are you anxious that your life is empty? Do you feel pointless and without purpose? A lack of meaning may cause you to waste your life chasing distractions … or it can motivate you to find your sense of life.
- Fear for your family – are you anxious that family members will suffer or die? Fearing the suffering or loss of important people may cause you to damage your adult relationships if you are preoccupied with childish worries.
- Fear of public speaking – do you fear standing up and saying what is important to you? Are you scared of microphones? The consequences may include shortness of breath, high blood pressure, nausea and a desire to run away.
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Control Anxiety, Worries & Phobias
Anxiety is more than worry. Are you constantly afraid, even when nothing seems to be wrong? If you can’t relax; if you always expect the worst, you may suffer from chronic anxiety – and you may feel depressed about always feeling afraid.
If you worry a lot, people may call you negative, irritable or grouchy. Your muscles may feel tense and sore, especially in your shoulders and neck. You may feel constantly tired or even exhausted. It may be hard for you to focus or relax.
Most phobias are extreme, irrational fears. For us, phobias are all pretty much the same – intense anxiety triggered by something usually considered minor. (If you like psycho-babble, arachibutyrophobia is the psychological term for a fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of your mouth).
Taking Charge of Fear, Anxiety and Worry
If you do not know what you are worried about – your fear or even your life may not seem to make sense. It’s not your fault … and we have helped many people like you.
Anxiety often originates in childhood, as a way of bonding to an anxious parent. It may start during the stresses of adolescence. Some anxiety problems may be due to food allergies and food sensitivities; although in our experience, most fears represent childhood relationship disappointments.
Does anxiety seem to run in your family? Do one or two people in each generation suffer in this way? Anxiety may indicate a cross-generational entanglement, in which someone in each generation feels entangled with someone in the last generation.
I always had good ideas, but I couldn’t make money with them. I was too scared that bad things would happen. During our sessions I realized that I was reliving my grandmother’s fears. She often worried about unknown problems.
After our sessions, 90% of my old fears were gone.
Long-term anxiety is often associated with family disturbances. Does your family’s history include abuse, abandonment, betrayal, violence or suicide attempts?
Chronic anxiety may also result from identifying with a family member who could not show fear. A primary symptom is a fear of change. We offer powerful ways to end this chronic worrying and fear. (A paradox is – if you are afraid of change, you may be afraid of therapists, counselors and other helping professionals.)
Are you anxious about your health? Do you interpret body sensations as evidence of serious disease (hypochondria)? Do you invent medical symptoms to avoid work, to qualify for disability payments or to evade military service (malingering)? Do you lie about your health to influence or manipulate people?
Do you invent medical symptoms to get what you want? Do you enjoy deceiving medical professionals? Health anxiety is also associated with post-traumatic stress and eating disorders, and is common amongst people who feel neglected or who want more control in their lives.
Few medical professionals seem to recognize health anxiety. They may accuse you of exaggerating – or they may call you a hypochondriac, a malingerer or a liar.
Hypochondria: Worried Sick?
Hypochondria means persistent irrational fear that you have, or will have, a serious medical condition. You may believe that you have a serious disease and that your doctor is not working hard enough (and drug companies will encourage you to spend a disproportionate amount of money for more drugs.)
You may feel dizziness, swelling, palpitations or pain. If you distrust medical professionals, you may disregard their advice and interpret common signs (e.g. headaches, dizziness, fatigue etc) as dangerous.
If you believe that your body is defective or deformed – endless reassurance or even plastic surgery are unlikely to ease your unpleasant feelings about your body.
Most hypochondriac people will never go to a psychiatrist. They’ll say, ‘I don’t want to talk about this, I want another biopsy, I want that CAT scan repeated.’
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Phobias & Social Phobia
Phobias may be called irrational obsessions and compulsions. Many phobias are examples of one-shot accelerated learning! Something happened that a person cannot forget. We can help most people solve phobias in a few sessions.
You may be labeled with social phobia (social anxiety) if you dread being criticized, or judged. You may be told that your fear is irrational; yet your anxiety persists.
If you have social phobia you find it difficult to be with people (“What are they thinking about me; maybe they don’t like me“). You may attract attention to yourself or even try to be the center of attention (“I’ll give them something to talk about!“).
Are you constantly worried or afraid? Do you even worry in your dreams? You may have muscle pains and headaches; you may feel constantly tired and yet you cannot seem to relax. Muscle tension may cause you to sweat a lot, even at night. You may even feel that you might vomit.
If so, you may find it difficult to leave your home. (Something terrible might happen). You may be afraid of losing it in public. You may feel insecure in all parts of your life.I met a woman who was anxious and fearful of any change. I helped her replace her chronic anxiety with peaceful motivation. When we met again two years later, she was still peacefully motivated … also happy and successful. Martyn
We help people change disturbing thoughts, manage emotions and solve relationship problems. We coach people to change emotions and limiting beliefs in situations about which they feel anxious or fearful. We help people respond to life appropriately.
Please consult a physician about medical conditions.
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