Online Solutions for Stress
Coping with Life’s Problems © Martyn Carruthers

Do you want to manage negative emotions and solve relationship issues?

Are you overloaded with stress?

Does stress interfere with your study, work, relationships and family?
Are you stuck in stress reactions, phobias, obsessions or compulsions?

While many people adjust to stressful events and move on, do you
react to stress with emotional or psychosomatic disease symptoms,
which often cause health or relationship problems?

If you alienated your emotions and emotional parts of yourself – even many years ago – you may continue to relive those stressful events. This can continue for years – especially when triggered by something.

The resulting phobias, compulsions, obsessions and stress disorders
will likely continue until you assimilate those parts of yourself.

Online Help for Stress

Your maturity might be defined in part, as your ability to rapidly respond to stressors and to manage feelings of stress.

Stress reactions differ from common, everyday emotions. If you lose a partner or a job … you may feel angry or depressed. If you lost a partner or job a long time ago, and you are still angry or depressed, then we can probably help you.

You may experience some frustration, but you can solve most problems with your own resources (which includes your ability to find other resources). You may explore options, trying one and another until you remove the stressor or reduce its intensity.

Stress reactions often include unpleasant emotions and relationship difficulties. If you were not taught to manage strong emotions or how to solve relationship problems – you may age regress (lose access to your adult resources).

The most common causes of stress are overwork and relationship disappointments. Continual stress may result in difficulties at school or work, social problems, relationship chaos or strange body symptoms.

We help people find, recover and integrate the parts of themselves
that can be split-off during stress.

Stress Reactions

Stress reactions can be thought of as exaggerated emotional or behavioral reactions to stressful events. The reactions usually occur within a few months of a stressful event (although the unpleasant feelings or negative emotions may be dissociated or repressed for years, only to explode later in life).

Stressful events that change the life of a child, adolescent or young adult include parental separation, family moves, the loss of a family member or a birth of a sibling.

Sometimes a parent’s love can feel more confining than freeing, more demanding than nurturing. If you were an “emotional partner” to a parent, you may be a victim of covert emotional incest. If your parent’s fought each other for your love – you may be a victim or parent alienation.

We help people manage the emotions and manage such stress reactions. As people vary in their experiences, temperament and therefore in their ability to cope; and as stressors can vary in intensity, duration and effect, we cannot accurately predict how many long this is likely to take.

Other symptoms of stress reactions include
suicidal impulses, anxiety, depression, self-harm,
relationship problems and self-sabotage

Who is affected?

Stress reactions seem to occur equally between males and females at all ages in all cultures. Symptoms of stress reactions in younger children include tantrums and withdrawal. Adolescent symptoms may include hyperactivity, while adults more often experience depression.

Unhealthy reactions to stress may seem to be exaggerated compared to healthier people, and may significantly interfere with education, work or family responsibilities.

Many treatments for stress disorders try to dissociate or get rid of symptoms.
We help people manage their negative emotions and relationship problems.

Symptoms of Stress Reactions

Many stressed adults act like children. In some cultures,
a man can act childishly if he is sick. This may not be acceptable
in other cultures, and may be unacceptable for women.

The following are three common groups of symptoms of stress reactions, roughly based on maturity.

1. Anxiety (mostly children or immature adults)

  • Nervous, worried, afraid of change
  • Afraid of separation from parents or partner
  • Generalized anxiety / agoraphobia (extreme)

2. Behavior (mostly teenagers or age-regressed adults)

  • Hyperactivity and Attention Deficit Disorders (ADD – ADHD)
  • Preoccupied with violence & gore (e.g. TV, computer games and cinema)
  • Violates others rights (e.g. bullying, theft) or societal rules (e.g. truancy, delinquency)

3. Depression (mostly adults)

  • Depressed and withdrawn
  • Melancholy, crying and tearfulness
  • Expresses hopelessness and helplessness

Please consult a medical doctor about medical conditions.

Simple Solutions for Simple Stressors:

  1. Decide to avoid or reduce a source of stress
  2. Dissolve anger or fear that contributes to stress
  3. Search for options to avoid or reduce the stressors
  4. Find options that control, remove or reduce a stressor
  5. Search for resources that enable you to follow through and change

Contact us to manage negative emotions and solve relationship issues

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