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Fixations & Limiting Beliefs © Martyn Carruthers 2005 1. Introduction to Bonds & Fixations . 2. Bonds, Fixations & Identity Loss Part 3: Change Relationship Bonds & Beliefs Although businesses spend fortunes to influence your shopping behavior, their influence is minor compared to that of your parents, teachers and doctors. (Some businesses spend fortunes to motivate those people to influence you.) Your beliefs – your answers to “What feels true or right?“ – are largely Read more

Is Your Partner Cheating? © Martyn Carruthers People change when they’re having affairs. Your partner may start exercising, become less courteous, work late more often or take unpaid business trips. This doesn’t mean that your partner is betraying you, it just means “pay attention”. Here are some common signs of betrayal. Affairs and Infidelity . Confronting Your Partner . Recovering from Affairs If you are concerned about betrayal, why not ask your partner directly? You Read more

Feel the richness, mystery and myth of the sacred Hawaiian islands … and the surrounding ocean. Most summers you can find us on Big Island Hawaii. It is our place of rest and regeneration. It is not only where we recharge our batteries, it is where we find spiritual renewal. While we are on Hawaii, we spend time with a wonderful friend who is captain of a dolphin adventure boat. We have known Nancy for years. Read more

Systems Coaching & Training in Kona, Hawaii Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions? Do you suffer from old trauma? Do you suffer from your parents’ drama or your partner’s demands? We can coach you to untangle your life … and you can help people to reclaim their freedom. Learn Systems Coaching on Hawaii Can you picture yourself on Hawaii, enjoying the warm seas, beautiful bays and ancient sacred places? The old places Read more

Martyn Carruthers – Coach Training 2007 Native Hawaiians were once classified as a primitive race with an animistic and polytheistic religion (like American Indians). Unlike Christian philosophies in which a soul is an individual possession, many Hawaiians appear to have conceived of a soul as part of a community. For them, individual human souls included community and ancestral components. Martyn Testimonial by Barbara Moore (Soul Proprietor of Dragonfly Healing Ranch, Honaunau, Hawaii) Twenty six years Read more

© Martyn Carruthers We help people manage their emotions, change deep limiting beliefs and solve relationship problems. Our coaching often seems to affect chronic pains, generally those called “psychosomatic“. Pain Control People experiencing pain or reflex sympathetic dystrophy (RSD) may be preoccupied and unable to focus on methods of pain control. We offer a resourceful space for coaching people in pain to solve their challenges and achieve their goals. Pain coaching can provides short-term pain Read more

Making Love Last © Martyn Carruthers Few topics fascinate people more than love. We think about it, we talk about it, we hope for it, we fantasize about it, and we may feel that our lives are incomplete without it. Most of us know how it feels to love … and to be loved. We may not know how and why we fall in love or how and why we fall out of love. Were Read more

End child abuse! © Martyn Carruthers & Kosjenka Muk Your early family relationships are the most influential relationships of your life. Confusion in those early relationships can lead to confusion throughout life. Contact us for help resolving emotional and relationship issues. Go to: Emotional Incest Solutions (Part 2) Covert emotional incest begins when a family member perceives or responds to another family member as a substitute for a partner. We help people resolve emotional incest, Read more

When Too Much is Not Enough © Martyn Carruthers Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy You are unlikely to cure an eating disorder with willpower alone. Compulsive eating seems not so much about food as about control. Who controls you when you lose control? The answer is usually a “younger self” or a person to whom you feel bonded. Do you know how to mature a “younger self”? (Perhaps one that you dislike – Read more

You’re Dead Right © Martyn Carruthers 1998 Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy We offer online help and mentorship about death and dying, grief, bereavement and relationships with people whose bodies have died. I, Robot? I once wrote a program so that my computer would randomly display human ideas. It might display, “I will do what you ask but not what you want“, or “I will remember this moment forever“, or even “I love Read more