Solve Partnership Issues © Martyn Carruthers

Happy partnership is not about finding a perfect partner.
Happy partnership is about resolving conflicts together.

Continued from Solutions for Couple Conflict

Real partners have real conflicts, discussions and arguments

Do you want a “happy ever after“? If you and your partner have no arguments or conflicts – maybe you are still on honeymoon … or perhaps you are having
an affair … or do you stay together for other reasons than intimacy?

I wanted to talk to my husband about how we can improve our marriage.
He said that if we had to talk about it, that meant it wasn’t working.

If you appear to have no conflicts – are you in a partnership or a dictatorship? Or is someone hiding unpleasant emotions or avoiding important issues? Do you
resolve conflicts or do you ignore them and hope that they will go away?

If you want to check your partnership skills, see Patterns of Partnership

We often help couples dream together – to create shared dreams of happiness and then explore how they can make their dreams come true. Dreaming together is sowing seeds … working together provides the sunshine and rain … lasting happiness is the harvest. While it’s easier to talk about dreams during a honeymoon; it’s important to remember your dreams during a conflict.

My husband and I understand each other now. Things that got on my nerves no longer
bother me. We can talk at length on just about any topic. We have not had a
screaming match or resentment since your couple counseling. Philadelphia

Have you told your partner how you want to be loved? Have you explored how your partner wants to be loved? We help people discuss feelings as well as behaviors – both as relationship first aid and as a way to make better decisions.

You probably know very well what each other likes and dislikes.
Do you use this knowledge to irritate each other? London

We help partners understand, appreciate and validate each other’s perspectives, history, beliefs and values, as a basis for mutual support and cooperation. Enjoying partnership is usually much more fulfilling than partnership breakdown.

Online Couple Coaching & Soulwork Therapy

Put ELATION in RelationSHIP

Do you wait until your conflicts reach CRISIS before you seek help? The earlier you improve your relationship – the more likely that you can solve your issues easily.

When I asked my husband to help with the housework, he would stall and forget it.
If I was angry, he accused me of over-reacting. If I reminded him of his promises,
he complained I was nagging. After our couple counseling with you, we ENJOY
doing most housework together! Other parts of our life are better too! Hawaii

We help partners change old habits that lead to boredom and frustration. If both of you commit to evaluating your partnership, and if both of you choose to be mature – budgets can be made, frustration and boredom can be reversed, and arguments can become stimulating conversations.

We are gay and we have been together for five years. You helped us remodel our
relationship and plan what we can do if my HIV positive partner develops AIDS. Boston

If a partner rejects possibilities for reconciliation, then indifference, affairs or separation may seem inevitable. Although we provide separation coaching – we prefer to help partners find better ways to express and receive love. Do you want your partnership to get lost in boredom or affairs? Do you have space for love?

Finding happiness together usually requires both partners sort out a lot of old habits, not only the “right” way to make coffee or clean the bathroom but any “I know I’m right ” thinking habits. Much better to approach each other with a “let’s find out together what works best for us” attitude. What old habits might block your progress?

Your Partner is not Perfect

And neither are you. Many people who separate are motivated by fantasies … perhaps a more perfect person may be out there looking for you … or maybe your partner had an affair. Most relationship conflicts are predictable partnership problems – and you can resolve most of them – or prevent them.

I married a perfect woman. She was gorgeous, sexy and rich … we had a wonderful time at her
father’s expense. But when her dad had money problems, we both had to work and we
argued every day. Your couple coaching helped us … we may not have fancy cars and
expensive holidays now, now we are adult partners … not adult children! London

We help couples evaluate and improve their partnership – and improve their relationships with their families, ex-partners, friends and colleagues. We help people change old habits and make healthy decisions about their lives together.

Check your partnership skills, see Patterns of Partnership

Double Vision and Mature Love

Are you enmeshed in previous relationships? We help you untangle from parents, ex-lovers, etc. While we prefer to help partners enjoy happy and fulfilling lives together, we help some couples separate and disconnect as peacefully as possible.

Do you want to manage your emotions and enjoy happier relationships?