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Simplicity Made Easy © Martyn Carruthers Online Help: Counseling & Therapy Dreaming Together allows deep and innovative changework. We adapt ourselves to our clients, rather than insisting that they adapt to us. Writing about Dreaming Together is a paradox. If I left this page blank, we could better explore our own reflections.   Do you have emotional issues or endless relationship problems? Although such issues are often centered around childhood disappointments – the issues can Read more…

Goal Coaching & Goal Diagnosis © Martyn Carruthers 1993 Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy Do you know how to define goals? Relationship goals are more than a sum of individual goals. Defining and fulfilling relationship goals is essential for healthy relationships. SMART goals (an acronym used by Ken Blanchard in The One Minute Manager) are useful to know, should by chance you meet people with them. Do you define your goals? Or do Read more…

Family Affairs © Martyn Carruthers Online Family Coaching & Soulwork Training Do you have trouble “getting along” with your family? Do you want to manage your emotions and solve relationship issues? Where are you now? We are often asked to mediate family conflicts and end quarrels between relatives. To offer this service yourself, you would need good systemic diagnosis skills, solid coaching or counseling skills, quality communication skills … and experience. Individual coaching is good Read more…

Family and School Stress © Martyn Carruthers Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy We help people manage parent-teen relationships, including school grades and college anxieties. We help young adults untangle their lives. Adolescence Teenagers are no longer children … nor yet independent adults. They may be traveling a rocky road to adulthood – with the added burdens of family problems such as conflicts, immature parents or divorce. We coach people to deal with these Read more…

Examples of Client Abuse © Martyn Carruthers Online Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy Most helping professionals are conscientious people with good intentions – and some damage the people that pay them for help. My therapist was like the loving father I never had and I would do anything he said. When he suggested a weekend together, I agreed … but later I felt terribly used. He still calls me and still wants me to purchase Read more…

Soulwork Coaching & Training © Martyn Carruthers Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy This page is for helping professionals and responsible adults. If sexual education offends you, please retreat now. We help people who suffer from sexual issues, and wish to manage or resolve issues of sexual intimacy. We help people manage relationship problems and emotional disturbances. Back to Page 1: Sexual Education & Harassment Back to Page 2: Sexual Abuse & Addictions 11. Read more…

Solutions for Parenting Problems © Martyn Carruthers Online Help for People with Relationship Problems Are you entangled in difficult relationships or negative emotions? Do you want to untangle your emotions and solve relationship problems? Emotional Incest – A True Story Many teenage girls suffer the consequences of a father-daughter-mother triangle in which a father’s over-expressed love for the daughter may motivate a mother to reject both her daughter and her husband. (Such parents are often Read more…

Father-Daughter Codependence © Martyn Carruthers Online Relationship Coaching, Counseling & Therapy We help people manage parental fixations and enmeshments. Continued from: Daddy’s Princess – Part 1 Patterns of Love vs Patterns of Need It is right and wonderful that parents love their daughters – as daughters. But if a father loves his daughter as a special friend, or worse as a substitute for a partner, chaos and suffering will follow – perhaps for generations. Few Read more…

© Martyn Carruthers Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Training We offer coaching and training on relationship and sexual happiness, resolving negative emotions and relationship entanglements. This page is for helping professionals and responsible adults. We provide coaching to people who have suffered from sexual issues, and we train health professionals to help clients manage issues of sexual intimacy. We help people manage many underlying relationship problems and emotional disturbances. Back to Page 1: Sexual Read more…

Father-Daughter Attachments © Martyn Carruthers Online Relationship Coaching, Counseling & Therapy Are you entangled with a parent? Were you abused? Are you ready to manage your fixations and enjoy emotional freedom? Continued from: Daddy’s Princess – Part 1 Solutions for Father-Daughter Fixation I wrote this to describe and clarify some common family habits and solutions. Many people avoid talking about these fixations and their consequences. If you feel strong emotions as you read this … Read more…