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By Kelly Lynn Ford Judgment here is not a judgment in a court of law, nor making sound decisions. A judgment is when you pre-judge someone or something to be wrong.  Kelly Lynn Ford Projection Kelly Lynn Ford integrates success coaching and psychology. Kelly’s work on evaluating projections when solving communication problems is both insightful and effective. Martyn Carruthers   You may think that you see a person’s behavior or situation clearly but when you Read more…

Managing your Conscience © Martyn Carruthers Online Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Training Is guilt a sign of responsibility – or depravity? Many people feel paralyzed by guilt. Do you want to untangle the feeling called guilt, and its consequences? Your guilt was probably caused by hurting people, failing your obligations or unconscious entanglements If you do not resolve your guilt you may feel depressed, overwhelmed or dissociated – trying to live a life that does Read more…

Untangle your emotions and your life! © Martyn Carruthers Online Help: Coaching & Counseling to Untangle Your Life Entanglement refers to relationships in which one person affects another person without direct interaction. Are you Entangled? Relationship entanglements can hurt you. The most common symptom is that you feel irrational emotions … emotions that are more appropriate to another time, to another place or to another person. Entanglements are very, very common. You probably have many Read more…

Entanglements with Abusers © Martyn Carruthers 2005 Are you emotionally enmeshed with an authority? Do you want to untangle your life and reclaim your freedom? Were you Abused? As you read this, you may become aware of disturbing facts. Talk to friends about how damage by authorities may apply to your life. Please don’t make it worse … avoid hasty conclusions or retribution. Most abusers claim good intentions. Some may say that they want to Read more…

Dissolving Childhood Trauma © Martyn Carruthers Many adults suffer from childhood trauma. Do you suffer from your parents’ drama or conflicts? Do you want to free yourself from toxic family attachments? Relationship goals can include a desire for partnership or parenthood, etc, or can be the shared goals of partners, families and teams. Relationships can be strongly influenced by relationship entanglements, fixations and bonds. Relationship bonds refer to obsessive beliefs and compulsive behaviors. Bonded behaviors Read more…

Emotional Issues & Relationship © Martyn Carruthers Are you entangled in bonded relationships? Do you still suffer the consequences of abuse? Do you want to solve emotional or relationship conflicts? Continued from Assess Relationship Bonds Part 1 Identity Loss & Relationship Bonds The stronger a relationship bond, whether liked or disliked, the less freedom of thought and action. Bonds may range from shared memories to total identification. People without relationship bonds may feel disconnected from Read more…

Online Solutions for a Mind Virus © Martyn Carruthers Are you entangled in toxic beliefs or painful emotions? Do you want to manage your emotions and solve relationship issues? During childhood, we gain most of the content and form of our future lives. Childhood delights and childhood problems define what we later consider to be normal. Many adult habits and behaviors reflect events that dominated them as children. Most people strive to remain normal regardless Read more…

What are your most cherished dreams? A stable marriage, well paying work, healthy children, a nice house and the respect of your community? Put these together and your greatest dream may be lasting happiness? Some sources of the ongoing pleasurable feelings of well-being generally called happiness are Acceptance – of your own strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities and finiteness Relationships – healthy relationships with family, friends and colleagues Respect – recognition by others of your qualities and Read more…

Resolve Identity Loss © Martyn Carruthers Our systemic psychology can help people resolve identifications and other identity issues, change limiting beliefs and end obsessions. Solutions for Identification & other Identity Loss Identification is normal human behavior. People identify with their occupations, their clothes, their cars and their countries. They identify with family members, friends or football teams. They identify with their beliefs, their emotions and with diagnostic labels. Will you live and die defending your Read more…

Do you never show your anger? © Martyn Carruthers Passive aggression is a relationship problem, usually fuelled by repressed fear or hidden anger and motivated by insecurity. Covert hostility damages relationships and alienate people. While people can and should be angry sometimes, some people habitually hide their anger. They may even believe that they have no anger or that they never get angry. Passive Aggression & Covert Hostility Have you noticed that some people may Read more…