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Mature & Immature Love © Martyn Carruthers I wanted to map the consequences of mature love and immature infatuation – the path of healthy partnership vs shallow affairs. Do you want to better understand your relationship habits and fulfill your dreams of happy partnership. Many couples start partnerships based on fantasies, with high expectations and limited partnership skills (let alone parenthood skills). They may wake up a few months or a few years later … Read more

Mature and Immature Love © Martyn Carruthers This is part 2 about the differences between infatuation and love – and between immature affairs and mature partnership. I wrote this for people who want to solve relationship problems … for people who want to share lives together. Wherever I teach, women seem generally more mature than men, and the competition to find mature men can be fierce. Many women seem to settle for immature or irresponsible Read more

© Martyn Carruthers Our couple coaching does not replace life coaching, marriage counseling or psychotherapy. Each is useful for different problems. Our couple coaching is for couples who want to cooperate and make better decisions together. Communication Exercise: Just Listening These exercises help motivated adults to better understand their partners’ communications. (Please allow yourselves space and time to make mistakes and learn without criticizing, excuses or complaining). Healthy couples do not have to agree with Read more

End Relationship Conflicts © Martyn Carruthers We help people resolve emotional and relationship problems. We can encourage you to make decisions – but we do not make decisions for you. We can encourage you to see other points of view – but we do not take sides. We can support your choices – but we will not pressure you to change. Systemic Couple Coaching & Partnership Conflicts Is your partnership excellent? Or is it in Read more

Don’t Give Up Too Quickly © Martyn Carruthers Are you or your partner enmeshed in difficult or painful emotions? Do you suffer from your parents’ drama, or from your partner’s parents? Do you want to untangle your lives … as you reclaim your freedom … together? Contact us to resolve negative emotions and relationship problems. Reconciliation that WORKS! Is your marriage or partnership in trouble? Is it time for you to decide whether or not Read more

Solutions for Negative Emotions © Martyn Carruthers Are your emotions appropriate for what is happening now? Or are they left over from earlier dramas – perhaps from when you were 4 or 14 years old? Or are they “other people’s” emotions that you are expressing for them? Emotional problems refers to unpleasant feelings, emotions, attitudes, habits and beliefs … and their consequences. The perception of a nuclear family of parents and children seems sadly outdated Read more

End the sabotage! © Martyn Carruthers We encourage you to make decisions – and we do not make decisions for you. We encourage you to see other points of view – and we do not take sides. We support your choices – and we do not pressure you to change. Sometimes the longest journey is the distance between two partners! Do you want to resolve emotional and relationship problems? We coach couples to create healthier Read more

Solve Partnership Issues © Martyn Carruthers Happy partnership is not about finding a perfect partner. Happy partnership is about resolving conflicts together. Continued from Solutions for Couple Conflict Real partners have real conflicts, discussions and arguments Do you want a “happy ever after“? If you and your partner have no arguments or conflicts – maybe you are still on honeymoon … or perhaps you are having an affair … or do you stay together for Read more

Solutions from the Edge of Chaos © Martyn Carruthers 2002 Creative Chaos in Coaching & Therapy (part 2) Your life reflects a complex phase space, with vast information enfolded around the organizing principle of your identity. You can change your identity to prosper in complexity and to survive chaos. You can benefit from our chaos coaching. Continued from: Creative Chaos in Coaching and Therapy (1) On the edge of chaos, when nothing makes sense and Read more

Breakthrough or Breakdown? © Martyn Carruthers2004 Our work encourages a joyful expression of life that brings insight and understanding. We help people manage difficult emotions and solve relationship problems. As soon as the rush is over, I’m going to have a nervous breakdown! I worked hard for it, I owe it to myself, And nobody will deprive me of it! What happens during a Nervous or Mental Breakdown? Nervous, mental or emotional breakdowns are lay Read more