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End self-sabotage & self-destruction © Martyn Carruthers
We offer relationship coaching for resolving family chaos
and emotional challenges.
Warning: You may find that some of these symptoms apply to you.
Most normal people experience many of these symptoms from
time to time, and some are requirements for various occupations!
Part 1 – Developmental Disorders
Symptoms called Developmental Disorders and Personality Disorders are opinions used by psychologists and health professionals to help determine appropriate treatments. A coach who understands these opinions can better communicate with psychologists and other health professionals, although few of these opinions can be confirmed or rejected by laboratory tests.
If a person appears to have a diagnosable medical or psychiatric condition,
please refer that person to a medical doctor or psychiatrist.
Personality Disorders and Developmental Disorders are medical terms that are rarely used in coaching. Descriptions of personality disorders are useful when discussing symptoms with health professionals. Statistical data are not useful for coaching individual clients. In our coaching, we use:
- Relationship History (relationship events)
- Relationship Matrix (family constellations)
- Goalwork (goal diagnosis and conflict management)
- Non-verbal signals (confirm, enhance or disprove messages)
Personality Disorders & DSM IV
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), owned by the American Psychiatric Association, offers guidelines to assist health professionals to form opinions that cannot be confirmed or rejected scientifically. Note that the sets of symptoms described in DSM overlap considerably, differ from person to person and that the recommended treatments for different disorders are often identical.
See Systemic Coaching & Mental Health.
1. Adjustment DisordersSymptoms include anxiety, aggression and depression, depending on the person’s physical or emotional age. 1. Anxiety Symptoms (children or age-regressed adults)
2. Behavioral Symptoms (adolescents & age-regressed adults)
3. Depressive Symptoms (adults)
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2. Antisocial Disorders (Sociopath / Psychopath)Symptoms include:
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3. Anxiety DisordersSymptoms associated with Anxiety Disorders are panic attacks / anxiety attacks which include racing heart, hyperventilation, breathing difficulties, chest pain, nausea, dizziness, headaches, trembling and more. Anxiety Disorders include the fear of spontaneous panic attacks, anxiety or agoraphobia, obsessive compulsive disorder or OCD, (repetition of rituals) and post traumatic stress disorder or PTSD (follows a life changing experience such as bereavement or a near fatal accident.) See Anxiety, OCD, Trauma & PTSD |
4. Attachment DisordersSymptoms associated with Attachment Disorders are repetitive and persistent violations of people, or violation of important community or social rules.
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5. Avoidant DisordersSymptoms include:
See Identity Loss and Relationship Bonds |
6. Bi-Polar Disorders (Manic-Depression)Symptoms associated with Bipolar Disorder are swinging moods and thoughts, and irrational behavior. Although sometimes pleasurable, the suffering may lead to suicide. The label indicates episodes of mania and depression, although a person may function normally between these episodes |
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Manic Phase
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Depressive Phase
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7. Borderline DisordersSymptoms include:
Children with this disorder are considered to be emotionally unstable, impulsive, and often bitter or angry, although their chaotic impulsiveness may make them popular at school. See Borderline |
8. Conduct DisordersSymptoms associated with Conduct Disorders are repetitive and persistent violations of people or important community or social rules.
This disorder applies to children … adults with similar symptoms are likely to be labeled Antisocial Personality Disorder. See Troubled Teenagers |
9. Dependent Personality DisordersSymptoms include:
See Dependence and Codependence |
10. Depersonalization DisordersSymptoms associated with Depersonalization Disorder are a sense of detachment or dissociation from the body. These symptoms can impede normal functioning at home, at school, or at work.
This is called Lost Identity in Systemic Coaching. The symptoms are similar to some descriptions of out-of-body and near-death experiences (NDE). See Identity Loss |
11. Depressive DisordersSymptoms include: Chronic pessimism, gloominess and cheerlessness. |
12. Histrionic Personality DisordersSymptoms include:
See Emotional Incest |
13. Oppositional Defiant Disorders (ODD)Symptoms of ODD may include …
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14. Narcissistic Personality DisordersPathological narcissism is the art of deception. Who do you know who is persistently deceptive and self-aggrandizing? Who reacts to crisis with narcissism, e.g. “This cannot possibly be happening to ME”. Some common signs are:
Some narcissist behavior conforms to cultural norms – consider the American idiom Fake it until you make it. See also: Covert Emotional Incest |
15. Obsessive-Compulsive PersonalitySymptoms include:
This disorder is said to differ from obsessive-compulsive disorder, which may include more bizarre behavior and rituals, and some people are even obsessive about statistics. See Obsessions & Compulsions and Eating Disorders |
16. Panic Disorders (Anxiety Attack)Symptoms include:
People with panic disorders may be diagnosed with agoraphobia – a fear of being in places or situations from which escape might be difficult should a panic attack occur. See Anxiety Disorders |
17. Paranoid Personality DisordersSymptoms include:
These symptoms are typical of Victim Identification, in which a person identifies with a family victim and expresses suspicion and anger. See Paranoia & Personality Identification & Chronic Anger |
18. Passive-Aggressive DisordersSymptoms include
Such people punish other people for perceived wrongs – but are afraid of their own anger. This may be a reaction to aggressive or violent parents. This behavior resembles that associated with victim identification and may indicate identification with a pretend-victim. See Passive Aggressive for more. |
19. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorders (PTSD)Symptoms associated with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder follow traumatic experience that involved actual or potential serious injury (physical or emotional) to self, a family member or associate.
PTSD symptoms allow a person to retreat from reality and avoid the disturbing emotions associated with acute or chronic trauma, often by acting like a wounded child. See Trauma & Abuse |
20. Schizoid Personality DisordersSymptoms include:
Symptoms associated with schizoid personality disorder allows a person to avoid displaying immature behavior or non-existent relationship skills. |
21. Schizotypal Personality DisordersSymptoms include:
Symptoms associated with schizotypal personality disorder may be labeled as mild schizophrenia. The symptoms may allow people to express unpleasant or forbidden emotions from parental disappointments, family abuse or childhood trauma. |
22. Seasonal Affective Disorders (SAD – Winter Depression)Symptoms include:
The difficult months in the northern hemisphere are usually January and February, with women and children at a higher risk. The risk of SAD seems to increase with latitude. See Depression |