Untangle your emotions and your life! © Martyn Carruthers
Entanglement refers to relationships in which one person
Are you Entangled?
Relationship entanglements can hurt you. The most common symptom is that you feel irrational emotions … emotions that are more appropriate to another time, to another place or to another person. Entanglements are very, very common.
You probably have many habits – things you do with little or no thought. Your ability to enjoy your life and your relationships reflect your habits – and your habits reflect your personal history, your family and cultural traditions … and your entanglements.
Are you bothered by emotional reactions, confusion or relationship habits following events such as codependence, emotional incest or abuse by therapists? We help people free themselves from emotional and relationship problems. (See Victim Identification and Quantum Thinking)
Do you mourn a past relationship? Do you obsess about a past partner – or potential partner? Do you try to relive old memories – again and again?
Do you sometimes act like a lost child or like a victim? Do you often play victimizer, victim or rescuer roles? These role-playing games can be intense and they have high stakes. You bet your life.
Cults, marketers and politicians may enmesh people to control their behavior. So do many families. There may be rules, but often the rules are taboo and cannot be discussed. In which of your relationships is it against the rules to know the rules?
Many people are manipulated by – and manipulate others by – sex. People who provide sexual pleasure – often without receiving pleasure themselves – expect some benefit. Other common entanglements are in sales and marketing – good looking young women can be used to sell just about anything.
Are you addicted to your own emotions – even unpleasant ones – or obsessed with hiding your emotions? Many relationship problems get worse over time, descending through symbiosis towards codependence. Codependence is a common form of entanglement – and a step away from having no relationships at all.
A few questions about your emotions can indicate your level of entanglement.
Entanglements often include avoiding or overloading responsibility. Entangled adults often appear immature and childish, or may obsess about other people’s behavior. Protection is often a small step from control. Mothering can become smothering.
Intelligence is not wisdom. Intelligent people may feel entangled if they cannot find logical solutions for problems that less intelligent people cannot perceive.
Most people must suffer before they seek help. Have you suffered enough?
Are You Entangled?
Do you want a life based on emotional maturity?