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Freedom from Obsessions and Self-Sabotage © Martyn Carruthers Click HERE to Explore your Emotional Bonds Are you serving other people’s values – not your own? Are you entangled in past relationships? We help motivated adults free themselves from limiting beliefs and entanglements. 2. Bonds & Identity Loss … 3. Resolving Emotional Bonds Part 1: Which Beliefs are actually BONDS? As I developed what I later called Integrative Systemic Coaching, I explored many current models of Read more

© Martyn Carruthers Click HERE to make an appointment! We offer coaching and training on partnership happiness, resolving family chaos and better relationships. What is Sense of Life? Victor Frankl Man’s Search for Meaning Ultimately, man should not ask for the meaning of his life, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. Each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; Read more

Who are YOU? © Martyn Carruthers Help with Fixations & Identity Loss Most people say that they want to be happy, so why is there so much suffering? Some answers lie in how people define themselves in their relationships. It’s a sad fact that many people feel stuck or bonded in unpleasant relationships – often by immature identifications and obsessive fixations. Fixations are strong attachments to people or things, usually formed in childhood disappointments. Fixations Read more

© Martyn Kahekili Carruthers Online Huna & Ho’oponopono . Hawaiian Shamanism To Papa Henry Auwae, Mona Kahele, John Kaimikaua, George Naope, Miriam Baker and Lanakila Brandt; beloved kupuna; inspiration to all who live with integrity – me ke aloha nui Martyn Kahekili Carruthers E Ku … E Lono … E Kane … E Kanaloa Polynesia … a vast expanse of islands scattered across the Pacific ocean … home to the greatest voyagers and navigators of Read more

Beyond Coaching by Martyn Carruthers Online Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Training Your relationship skills, your coaching and mentoring, can last longer than your words or success. You can be remembered for your integrity, trust, and honest communication throughout your relationships. I wrote this little poem in Warsaw, Poland when I was still piecing together what I would later call Soulwork systemic coaching. Kumulipo is a Hawaiian word with multiple meanings. One translation is teacher of Read more

Advanced Coaching © Martyn Carruthers Online Help, Counseling & Therapy This is not a manual – it’s an outline of how I can help people learn quickly. This maps or represent some of our skills. Yet a map may be frustrating if you feel lost and you want immediate solutions for pressing problems. Expert Modeling 1 . Expert Modeling 2 . Expert Modeling 3 . Training What is Expert Behavioral Modeling? Technological breakthroughs are rarely Read more

Solving Educational Problems © Martyn Carruthers Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Mentorship Education is confronted by volatile economies, changing demography, public opinion, government support and commercial competition. The issues facing education require more than employee restructuring or financial management. The issues concern relevance in tomorrow’s world. University Education University education has long been an educational holy grail. Universities have been endowed by royalty, religions, governments and successful alumni, and an ever-increasing number of young adults Read more

Applied Expert Modeling © Martyn Carruthers 1998 Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Therapy Accelerated Learning If you do not regularly increase, update and use your knowledge, you risk being left behind by those who do. Our accelerated learning, knowledge management and expert modeling are important life skills – systemic education skills that are rarely taught at school or university Your continued survival, wellbeing and success may require that you learn and use not only intellectual Read more

Solve Childish & Teenage Problems © Martyn Carruthers Online Help: Coaching & Counseling for Maturity Your relationships can only be as fulfilling as your maturity allows. Are you trying to extend your youth … or your childhood? Immature adults often create relationship problems. Continued from: Emotional Maturity 1 Your life reflects your maturity. If you want to improve your success, your health or your happiness, consider if you have grown up – or if you Read more

Therapist, Mentor and Spiritual Damage © Martyn Carruthers 2003 Relationship Coaching, Counseling & Systemic Therapy People will remember your relationship skills, your honesty, candor and integrity … or your lack of it. Short-term Coaching & Long-term Mentorship We apply systemic psychology to goals or projects depending on a person’s desires and needs. Short-term coaching can define and plan specific goals, while long-term mentorship helps people build lives with meaning and integrity. Short-term coaching and long-term Read more