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Prevent Partnership & Marriage Problems © Martyn Carruthers Online Help: Coaching & Counseling for Partnership We offer individual and couple counseling on solving relationship problems, mature relationship skills and managing negative emotions. What’s wrong with me? What’s wrong with them? Are you alone or in an unsatisfactory relationship? This may not be your choice or your desire – do you feel stuck and unable to get what you want? You may decide that something is Read more…

Breakthrough not Breakdown © Martyn Carruthers 2004 Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Therapy The Soul of our work is integrity – a joyful expression of life that brings insight and understanding. We help people untangle difficult situations and enjoy life. What happens in Burnout? Your body, mind and emotions can’t burn out. Physical, mental or emotional burnout imply your physical or mental fatigue or a feeling of approaching overtiredness or even collapse. Do you hide Read more…

Regain your self respect © Martyn Carruthers Online Life Coaching & Counseling following Abuse You can avoid being victimized by therapists and trainers. Research the consequences of any psychological training before you start – especially if hypnosis, belief-change or programming are involved. Check the potential consequences of a psycho-theology on your life and your relationships. From: Client Abuse Part 1 Examples of Client Abuse by Helping Professionals Therapist-Client Codependence Client abuse and student damage can Read more…

Manic-Depression & Identity Conflict © Martyn Carruthers 2002 Online Help: Coaching, Counseling & Therapy Are you entangled in difficult relationships or painful emotions? Do you want to untangle your life and reclaim your freedom? What is Bipolar Disorder? Many people who complain of recurrent depression and mania are diagnosed as having bipolar disorder. The same symptoms may also be labeled manic depression, endogenous depression, cyclothemia or cyclic depression. A medical diagnosis of bipolar disorder implies Read more…

Marriage & Conflict Management © Martyn Carruthers Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy Marital problems increase as women choose to be complete human beings. Is your marriage big enough for two complete people? We help couples develop their partnership skills, and resolve relationship conflicts. Do you think that marriage will make you happy? Marriage will only make you married. The rest is up to you. To husband means to conserve and protect resources. Wife Read more…

Avoid Emotional Illiteracy © Martyn Carruthers Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Soulwork Therapy Do you want to manage your emotions and solve relationship problems? What is Maturity? Maturity is a choice, and every choice you make displays your maturity! For men, maturity often includes desires to cooperate and to solve problems. For women, maturity often includes desires for parental responsibilities and to communicate feelings. Maturity indicates an ability to understand people and use healthy relationship Read more…

Recover from Betrayal © Martyn Carruthers Online Help: Counseling & Training Do you want to rebuild a committed happy partnership? Or do you want to end an unhappy partnership? Or do you just want to make up your mind? Are you having an affair now? (See Part 1) Might your partner be having an affair? (See Signs of Affairs) We both just wanted to be happy … Intimate affairs are a primary cause of separation, Read more…

Dealing with Betrayal © Martyn Carruthers Online Help: Counseling to Recover from Affairs Is your partner is having an affair? What can you do and what should you avoid? Affairs and Infidelity . Signs of Affairs . Recovering from Betrayal Many people react emotionally when they discover they were betrayed. Emotions such as anger, fear, guilt or a desire for revenge may motivate behaviors that are later regretted – behaviors which may complicate you solving Read more…

Due Diligence © Martyn Carruthers Online Coaching, Counseling & Systemic Therapy Protection from Psychological Operations Psychological operations (psych-ops or psy-ops) refer to the planned use of psychological knowledge to influence groups, organizations or populations to act in certain ways. Although associated with guerilla warfare, rebellion and subversion; many marketing and political strategies include psych-ops techniques … perhaps called “office politics“, “hostile takeovers“, “social engineering” or “effective marketing“. Organizations can protect themselves from hostile psych-ops manipulation Read more…

Managing Downsizing © Martyn Carruthers Online Coaching & Training Downsizing, Reorganizing and Profitability Downsizing for Managers Reorganizing, mergers and downsizing are part of your organizational life, affecting both your employees being terminated and those who remain. Terminated employees may lose self-confidence and motivation, and have difficulties finding other work. Your remaining employees may distrust you and your organization, and show decreased loyalty, morale and productivity. Your remaining employees may perceive the laid off employees as Read more…