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Beliefs about Beliefs © Martyn Carruthers Contact us for solutions for negative emotions, relationship problems and for dissolving emotional and spiritual blocks. As we become global citizens in our words and deeds, we can learn to work together for peace and sustainability. Support and participate in a culture of respect and compassion. Help heal our planet to create a world based on wisdom and harmony. Hawaiian Shamanism . Hawaiian Spirituality . Ancient Egyptian Healing Brief Read more…

Emotional Intelligence & Emotional Maturity Youth Fades; Immaturity Lingers © Martyn Carruthers   Do you want to untangle your life? Your emotional intelligence, together with your intellectual intelligence and relationship intelligence, comprise essential parts of your life. How would you assess your maturity? Your every relationship is a hologram of your life. You can mask but not hide your self-awareness, your maturity, your self-control, your commitment and your integrity. In every relationship you show how Read more…

Inappropriate Relationship Behavior © Martyn Carruthers Do you react to some people as if they were someone else? Do some people react strangely to you? What is Transference? Imagine that someone owes you a lot of money … and that you meet a person who looks quite like your debtor. How would you spontaneously feel? That’s transference. Do you remember feeling in love with someone, perhaps a person with whom you never went the next Read more…

Pulling Yourself Together © Martyn Carruthers Do you use drugs as a substitute for change? Alcohol, nicotine, anti-depressants and stimulants seem easier than applying intelligence and analytical skills to your relationships. Consequences of Crisis, Trauma & PTSD Have you experienced or witnessed an event that involved injury, abuse or serious loss? Did you suffer a serious accident or a life-threatening disease? Do you since experience anxiety, or helplessness, or perhaps horror? Do you feel disturbed Read more…

Identity Loss © Martyn Carruthers Do you sometimes feel lost in life? Have you lost contact with your feelings and feel intellectual but empty? Solutions for Identity Issues 2 . Spirituality & Identity Loss If I ask you how you feel – will you say, “Not bad”? Do you not-feel? Do you habitually hide your feelings? Have you been discouraged from showing or discussing your emotions? Some people hide their feelings so often that they Read more…

Solutions for Obsessions & Compulsions When you are too motivated © Martyn Carruthers Are you impulsive? Do you want to transform obsessions, manage compulsions or change limiting beliefs? Who is Obsessive or Compulsive? Many people want more motivation … and some people want less. If your motivation is too strong, you may be called obsessive, compulsive or even addicted. Sometimes it’s wonderful to not feel motivated to do things that you don’t want to do. Read more…

Solutions for Impotence & Frigidity Emotional Blocks to Sex © Martyn Carruthers Are you entangled in relationship problems or painful emotions? Do you suffer from your parents’ drama or your partner’s moods? We help people manage their emotions and untangle their lives. Partnership Problems Male impotence and female frigidity are common partnership problems. Both refer to an inability to enjoy normal sexual activity or to experience the pleasure of orgasm. Sexual dysfunctions are often consequences Read more…

Solutions for Internet Addictions Reclaiming your Life © Martyn Carruthers Internet websites entice many people into shameful behaviors. We help people to end internet addictions and make healthy changes. We help people overcome online obsessions and internet compulsions. Do you use the internet recreationally for more than ten hours each week?   A study found that 50% of internet users said that they spend about half of their online time avoiding productive activities. The emotional, Read more…

Relationship Rejection & Abandonment Disloyalty & Betrayal by Martyn & Kosjenka Were you abandoned, betrayed or rejected by someone you loved? Rejection is part of life … and so is Recovery It is not likely that everyone will always love you. It is more likely that you will sometimes feel rejected, hurt and disappointed. Or have you rejected someone? This is not about a job application being ignored, or being passed over for promotion. This Read more…

Mature Communication A Simple Typology © Martyn Carruthers If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too … Rudyard Kipling  Incongruent Communication & Maturity Consider someone who says, “Yes!” while shaking the head slowly from side to side. Has someone told you, “I love you” while coughing and scratching Read more…