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Resolve Partnership Conflicts © Martyn Carruthers Real partners have real conflicts. People in romantic affairs or couples who are emotionally separated may have few conflicts. We help people recognize, survive and manage their conflicts – to restore marriages – to start new relationships – or to live independently.   We help couples rebuild their relationships for lasting happiness, and sometimes we help couples separate peacefully. For most people, the end of a partnership is as Read more…

Anger, Fear, Injustice and Overwork © Martyn Carruthers Do you want to resolve emotional and relationship issues quickly? Are you Stressed? Stress is a fact of life. Deal with stress – or you deal with its consequences. Effective solutions for stress include supportive relationships, good planning, regular exercise and a healthy diet. But some quick fixes are worse than the problems – many people take drugs to try to solve the stress of unhealthy relationships. Read more…

Change Limiting Beliefs © Martyn Carruthers 1995 Thoughtforms & Relationship Bonds This is based on my article, Thoughtforms, which was published by NLP World in March 1995. Here I summarized some the subjective experience of limiting identity beliefs and its applications in relationship coaching. Relationship bonds refer to a subjective experience of connection between people, with the sense that people can lose both freedom and identity in relationships. A Thoughtform refers to a kinesthetic image Read more…

Food Allergy © Martyn Carruthers We offer coaching and training on systemic psychology, dissolving emotional problems, nonverbal communication and healthy relationships. Might you have Food Allergies? Did you know that food can cause negative emotions? As scientists study complex human biology, more data suggesting systemic and dietary factors underlying emotions are unveiled. Sadly, however, many health professionals only update their knowledge with information from drug manufacturers. If you have periodic emotional swings, such as depression, Read more…

Searching for Completion © Martyn Carruthers Do you feel sad, alone or incomplete? Do you seek a Soul Mate? Many people attempt to control such feelings with distractions and drugs. We help people change the consequences associated with losing a womb-twin. Human twins are famous for a closeness that seems to begin in their mother’s womb. Although most people forget their pre-birth experiences, most twins share strong bonds throughout their lives. If a twin dies, Read more…

Finding an Inner Babysitter © Martyn Carruthers Many people have problems communicating emotions and feelings. We help people manage their emotions and solve relationship problems. Part 1 Coaching an Inner Child Part 2 Emotional Maturity Common Types of Inner Children It seems that most inner children are created during relationship disappointments – during a crisis that could have been at any age from pre-birth to young adult. Many people seem to have more than one Read more…

Stop inner child abuse © Martyn Carruthers Do you use drugs instead of improving your relationship with yourself? Do anti-depressants or stimulants seem easier than solving emotional problems? Some people do not accept that they have problems, some hope for magical cures and some don’t believe that long-term solutions exist. Part 1: Coaching an Inner Child Part 3: Inner Children & Emotional First Aid About one in four people will experience an emotional or relationship Read more…

Good Intentions & Mentor Damage © Martyn Carruthers Are you enmeshed with a helping professional or a spiritual guide? Do you feel entangled with your employees or clients? CAUTION: As you read this, you may discover some disturbing facts about yourself and people you know. Please discuss with friends how damage or abuse may apply to you … and to them. Please avoid hasty conclusions or retribution. We help people solve emotional and relationship problems Read more…

Regain Lost Skills and Qualities © Martyn Carruthers Transcript recorded and transcribed by Ana Pejcinova, PhD Preface Martyn Carruthers presented a training in Warsaw, Poland for coaches, therapists and counselors, focusing on identity loss. This included innovative ways to help people regain access to lost resources, or parts of themselves, that had been split off during past trauma, using what Martyn calls Soulwork Systemic Psychology. Many people seem to lose access to important resources or Read more…

Rapid Solutions for Entanglements © Martyn Carruthers Solve relationship problems – with your cognitive mind, your emotional heart and your intuitive soul. From: Entanglement Part 1 Between Enmeshment and Detachment Some people are enmeshed – they have woven their lives and identities around one another so tightly that it is difficult for anyone to function independently. And some people are detached – they are so independent that they don’t feel connected. Many relationships are somewhere Read more…