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Managing negative emotions © Martyn Carruthers Were you prescribed drugs as a poor substitute for improving your relationships? Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine, or other-medication with prescription anti-depressants or stimulants, is easier than applying intelligence, maturity and relationship skills to complex relationship issues – but … Drugs are cheaper for the patient (in the short term) and much more profitable for health professionals, but the consequences of psychoactive drugs are unacceptable to many people. What Read more

When adults act like children © Martyn Carruthers Do you want to end emotional stress, limiting beliefs or toxic relationships? Can you Cope with Change? Stress is a normal part of life, and stress reactions can interfere with study, work, and relationships. Many reactions are are delayed, with people reacting to stress decades later, showing behavioral problems, psychosomatic symptoms or emotional disorders. Can you deal with stress reactions or do you feel stuck? Do you Read more

Solve Relationship Problems © Martyn Carruthers The consequences of attachment disorders include family members who feel disconnected from each other. Dissolving Adult Attachment Disorders People who did not enjoy their connections with their parents or caregivers may suffer from attachment disorders. Can you trust people? Unresolved attachment issues can prevent people from forming secure and stable adult relationships. While most people want love and affection, people with attachment disorders may be unable to express their Read more

Effective Information Flow © Martyn Carruthers If you can recall useful data from raw experience, you can use that data to predict future patterns. Your data has become information. If you use this information in a defined context, it becomes knowledge – a basis for decisions. If you can survive the consequences of your decisions – you may be deemed intelligent. If you can enjoy long-term benefits, you may be assumed to have wisdom. Data Read more

End self-destruction and suffering! © Martyn Carruthers We offer training and counseling on systemic coaching, developmental disorders and solving relationship problems. Link to Part 2 – Personality Disorders Developmental Disorders and Personality Disorders are opinions used by psychology and health professionals to help determine appropriate treatments. Note that few opinions mentioned in DSM4 (a popular psychiatric manual) can be confirmed or rejected by laboratory tests. If you appear to have a diagnosable medical or psychiatric Read more

End self-sabotage & self-destruction © Martyn Carruthers We offer relationship coaching for resolving family chaos and emotional challenges. Warning: You may find that some of these symptoms apply to you. Most normal people experience many of these symptoms from time to time, and some are requirements for various occupations! Part 1 – Developmental Disorders Symptoms called Developmental Disorders and Personality Disorders are opinions used by psychologists and health professionals to help determine appropriate treatments. A Read more

Presented to: Gdansk Psychology Conference © Martyn Carruthers, 2001 Part 1: Diagnosis of Mental Illness Systemic Coaching Success in any field can be inhibited by behaviors and symptoms generically called mental illness. These symptoms can affect people of all ages, races, cultures and class. They range from acute, short-term distress to chronic, long-term impairment. Acute, short-term symptoms are often associated with identifiable stressors. The most common symptoms result from physical stress, such as dehydration, infection Read more

Presented to Gdansk Psychology Conference © Martyn Carruthers, 2001 I wish to thank the professors and students of Gdansk University for inviting me to your beautiful city. I hope that you will find this talk interesting, and that you will attend the demonstrations of systemic psychology that I will present later this evening. Success in any field can be inhibited by behaviors and symptoms generically called mental illness. These symptoms can affect people of all Read more

Drugs and relationship problems © Martyn Carruthers It is easier for health professionals to use drugs as a substitute for change. Alcohol, nicotine or prescription anti-depressants and stimulants are simpler than applying intelligence and analytical skills to relationship problems and negative emotions. Women taking medication are wise to seek medical advice before conceiving or immediately following conception, to lower the risk of adverse effects on unborn children. Which Medications are Dangerous to your Health? Some Read more

Solutions for Partnership Conflicts 2 © Martyn Carruthers Real partners have real conflicts We help people manage relationship problems, restore their partnership, build healthy partnerships – or gently separate. Continued from Part 1: Partnership Breakdown Part 1 was about the situations and events that lead to a partnership crisis. Useful first steps include assessing your partnership skills and managing negative emotions. Step 2: Infatuation and Disenchantment Unlike love, infatuation reaches a peak and then diminishes Read more