Emotional Intelligence & Emotional Maturity Youth Fades; Immaturity Lingers © Martyn Carruthers Do you want to untangle your life? Your emotional intelligence, together with your intellectual intelligence and relationship intelligence, comprise essential parts of your life. How would you assess your maturity? Your every relationship is a hologram of Read more…
Inappropriate Relationship Behavior © Martyn Carruthers Do you react to some people as if they were someone else? Do some people react strangely to you? What is Transference? Imagine that someone owes you a lot of money … and that you meet a person who looks quite like your debtor. Read more…
Pulling Yourself Together © Martyn Carruthers Do you use drugs as a substitute for change? Alcohol, nicotine, anti-depressants and stimulants seem easier than applying intelligence and analytical skills to your relationships. Consequences of Crisis, Trauma & PTSD Have you experienced or witnessed an event that involved injury, abuse or serious Read more…
Identity Loss © Martyn Carruthers Do you sometimes feel lost in life? Have you lost contact with your feelings and feel intellectual but empty? Solutions for Identity Issues 2 . Spirituality & Identity Loss If I ask you how you feel – will you say, “Not bad”? Do you not-feel? Read more…
Solutions for Obsessions & Compulsions When you are too motivated © Martyn Carruthers Are you impulsive? Do you want to transform obsessions, manage compulsions or change limiting beliefs? Who is Obsessive or Compulsive? Many people want more motivation … and some people want less. If your motivation is too strong, Read more…
Solutions for Impotence & Frigidity Emotional Blocks to Sex © Martyn Carruthers Are you entangled in relationship problems or painful emotions? Do you suffer from your parents’ drama or your partner’s moods? We help people manage their emotions and untangle their lives. Partnership Problems Male impotence and female frigidity are Read more…
Solutions for Internet Addictions Reclaiming your Life © Martyn Carruthers Internet websites entice many people into shameful behaviors. We help people to end internet addictions and make healthy changes. We help people overcome online obsessions and internet compulsions. Do you use the internet recreationally for more than ten hours each Read more…
Relationship Rejection & Abandonment Disloyalty & Betrayal by Martyn & Kosjenka Were you abandoned, betrayed or rejected by someone you loved? Rejection is part of life … and so is Recovery It is not likely that everyone will always love you. It is more likely that you will sometimes feel Read more…
Mature Communication A Simple Typology © Martyn Carruthers If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too … Rudyard Kipling Incongruent Communication & Maturity Read more…
Helping Difficult People Professional Masochism? © Martyn Carruthers Many difficult people are immature – stuck in childish emotions. To help them professionally, first learn how to solve their difficult behaviors. Here are some tips and pointers for working with difficult people. Super-Vision for Coaches, Counselors & Therapists Points worth remembering: Read more…