Perché le donne poco attraenti hanno matrimoni più felici

Even attractive women are often worried about their looks. I don’t really have to explain much about it. Sufficient to quote someone from endless online comment sections: “I’ve never seen a woman who would be truly beautiful without make up.” Personally, I think it’s ridiculous. Many people wouldn’t, though. This is how being endlessly bombarded by photoshopped pictures can influence people.

However, there is something that I’ve noticed observing people in life and in my therapeutic practice: while attractive women might receive more attention, it’s often the average (and sometimes below-average) looking women whose marriages are usually much happier and long lasting.

Cynics might say it’s because unattractive women demand less of men because they want to keep them around. There might be some truth in it, but in my experience, it’s certainly not the detrimental part of the truth. I’ve even met some unattractive women with emotional issues including “borderline” syndrome; their husbands still treated them very well. It would seem that men who choose less attractive women as life partners generally have good quality values: they appreciate the essence rather than the surface, the woman’s personality rather than her looks.

In such a situation, both partners are probably more realistic and less concerned about status and appearance. This makes for a good start! Quite a few unattractive women told me about their partners’ kindness, consideration and patience. Often those are the marriages that are truly “till death us do part”. The surviving partner usually cherishes the memory of the departed one.

Pretty women are usually attractive to men who value their looks and popularity. They might want a “trophy wife”, or confuse sexual attraction with love. When we see a pretty person, it’s easier to not seek further than the surface. Such men might eventually discover they don’t really like their wives’ personalities – or might not care one way or the other.

D'altra parte, gli uomini più sani ed equilibrati potrebbero anche non prendere in considerazione l'idea di avvicinarsi a una bella donna, presumendo che debba avere già troppi ammiratori, o che possa essere viziata, o che preferisca qualcuno più bello. A volte vero - spesso sbagliato. Un'identità forte e interessante è molto più attraente di un bell'aspetto o lusinghiero.

Quindi, signore, se pensate di non essere abbastanza belle, questo potrebbe darvi più speranza per le vostre relazioni presenti o future. Concentratevi sul proiettare la vostra personalità piuttosto che rifuggire dal romanticismo. Siate il vostro sé più intenso (in senso buono!) La fiducia, il calore e l'umorismo fanno sì che la maggior parte delle persone si accorga appena del proprio aspetto.

Considerate la possibilità di uscire senza trucco a volte - forse sarebbe un buon filtro per i potenziali partner! Non molti uomini potrebbero essere attratti da voi senza il vostro trucco, non importa cosa potrebbero proclamare in teoria - ma quelli che lo sono, hanno più probabilità di valerne la pena.

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