Por qué las mujeres poco atractivas tienen matrimonios más felices

Even attractive women are often worried about their looks. I don’t really have to explain much about it. Sufficient to quote someone from endless online comment sections: “I’ve never seen a woman who would be truly beautiful without make up.” Personally, I think it’s ridiculous. Many people wouldn’t, though. This is how being endlessly bombarded by photoshopped pictures can influence people.

However, there is something that I’ve noticed observing people in life and in my therapeutic practice: while attractive women might receive more attention, it’s often the average (and sometimes below-average) looking women whose marriages are usually much happier and long lasting.

Cynics might say it’s because unattractive women demand less of men because they want to keep them around. There might be some truth in it, but in my experience, it’s certainly not the detrimental part of the truth. I’ve even met some unattractive women with emotional issues including “borderline” syndrome; their husbands still treated them very well. It would seem that men who choose less attractive women as life partners generally have good quality values: they appreciate the essence rather than the surface, the woman’s personality rather than her looks.

In such a situation, both partners are probably more realistic and less concerned about status and appearance. This makes for a good start! Quite a few unattractive women told me about their partners’ kindness, consideration and patience. Often those are the marriages that are truly “till death us do part”. The surviving partner usually cherishes the memory of the departed one.

Pretty women are usually attractive to men who value their looks and popularity. They might want a “trophy wife”, or confuse sexual attraction with love. When we see a pretty person, it’s easier to not seek further than the surface. Such men might eventually discover they don’t really like their wives’ personalities – or might not care one way or the other.

Por otro lado, los hombres más sanos y equilibrados podrían ni siquiera considerar acercarse a una mujer bonita, suponiendo que ya debe tener demasiados admiradores, o que podría ser mimada, o que preferiría a alguien más guapo. A veces es cierto - a menudo se equivoca. Una identidad fuerte e interesante es mucho más atractiva que una buena apariencia o un halago.

Así que, señoritas, si no se creen lo suficientemente bellas, esto podría darles más esperanza para sus relaciones presentes o futuras. Concéntrense en proyectar su personalidad en lugar de rehuir el romance. Sean su yo más intenso (¡en el buen sentido!) La confianza, la calidez y el humor hacen que la mayoría de la gente apenas se dé cuenta de su aspecto.

Considere la posibilidad de salir sin maquillaje a veces - tal vez eso sería un buen filtro para las parejas potenciales! No muchos hombres podrían sentirse atraídos por usted sin su maquillaje, no importa lo que puedan proclamar en teoría - pero los que lo son, es más probable que valgan la pena.

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