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Unconscious foundations of falling in love Perhaps you are familiar with the idea that we are often romantically attracted to people who remind us of our parents or circumstances from our childhood. Or perhaps this is a completely new idea and difficult to accept?...

The ecstasy we feel when our love is returned is greatly based on the feeling that we are fully accepted, approved of, and free to be who we are. This is what, as children, we needed most from our parents, but rarely received, whether due to parents' lack of...

If you look around a bit, it seems that in most "stable" relationships partners communicate more through grumbling and sarcasm, than with warmth and respect. These same partners, if somebody years ago suggested that they sit down and make a serious agreement about how...

I have written before about psychological background of disease, and sexual problems are often obvious examples of psychosomatic symptoms. If you have done your medical tests and the results didn't show any physical issues that would cause a problem, it is time to...

Most people choose intimate partners, friends and sometimes business associates based on their personal traits, rather than their values. We notice, for example, that a certain person is intelligent, funny, friendly, confident and similar. However, all those traits do...

  Trying to change a partner When I work with couples (and individuals, too), in their bitter criticisms of their partners I can often guess what a person wanted to say to their parents, but for whatever reasons couldn't or didn't dare. (Sometimes I can literally...

Question: I live in a patriarchal, traditional environment. I am 30 years old and have had three short-term relationships so far, none lasting longer than 3 months. It?s clear to me that I fear intimacy, having been hurt and abandoned as a child, with my parents being...

Question: Recently, I got married, but very quickly problems began with my mother-in-law. She doesn?t allow us privacy?she tries to spend every afternoon with us. She lies to my husband about me and makes up things I haven?t done. My husband even decided to cut short...

  Question: I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for just over a year now, and I feel the loss of passion and infatuation I felt at the beginning. I think, on one hand, this is a normal process. However, I find myself increasingly interested in other...

  Technology is making long-distance relationships easier to start and maintain. On the other hand, relationships can also be negatively influenced by increased expectations of ambition and mobility, i.e. by the likelihood that either of the partners might find a...

From Q&A section: Is it possible for people with Asperger?s syndrome to have successful relationships? What are some tips for maintaining a healthy relationship for individuals with Asperger?s syndrome, as well as their partners? Answer: Every person and...

From Q&A section: Is it justifiable to end a relationship solely because I'm no longer happy, even if my partner has not done anything wrong? Answer: There are plenty of people around who parted on friendly terms and without blame for their exes. Maybe they...

From Q&A section Answer: Anger/resentment usually has 3 main causes (not mutually exclusive): you feel your well-being is objectively threatened, and anger is a source of energy to protect yourself. If that person is still your boyfriend and not an ex, it might be...

photo credit: Negar Nikkhah from Q&A section Question: How can you tell if your partner is truly over their past relationship or if they are hiding their feelings to spare your feelings? Answer: they show genuine enthusiasm about being with you (not just verbally,...

Question: My partner doesn't want to change the things that bother me in their behavior. Is it a red flag? Does it mean I should end the relationship? Answer: It depends on what you want them to change. If you?d like them to change something small and superficial that...