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Why the Need for Victim Blaming?

by KosjenkaM | 7.Jun. 2017 | Integrity, Society

Victim blaming is a common psychological defense strategy that can be quite damaging. Temporarily, victim blaming can make us feel slightly safer, but it harms victims and society. Eventually, it could harm you or the people you love. When you read about...

Are You a Flying Monkey? (And How To Avoid Being One)

by KosjenkaM | 20.Mar. 2018 | New Articles, Abuse, Integrity

What is “a flying monkey”? The expression “flying monkey” originates from the book “The Wizard of Oz”, in which a group of winged monkeys serves an evil witch and executes her destructive commands. In real life, it describes...

Turn Emotional Pain Into Passion And Inspiration

by KosjenkaM | 1.May. 2019 | Emotional wellbeing, Inspiration, Integrity, New Articles, Personal growth, Recommended Articles

Physical pain is a signal that something is wrong. Our automatic reaction is to reduce it as soon as possible. It makes sense that we react in the same way to emotional pain. Besides, we are conditioned by our communities and culture to avoid unpleasant emotions, hide...

How To Live With Integrity

by KosjenkaM | 8.Jul. 2019 | New Articles, Integrity

Your integrity and your relationship with yourself are the only things you can truly own; the only firm point in universe you can have. If you compromise it, you lose trust in yourself and in future it will be more difficult to rely on yourself. That means...

How To Truly Forgive And Be Forgiven?

by KosjenkaM | 4.Sep. 2019 | Emotional wellbeing, Abuse, Integrity

Why is it sometimes so difficult to forgive? Many New Age and self-help books say that, to achieve inner peace, we have to forgive people who hurt us. A common message about how to actually do it is something like: just decide to forgive! Or they might instruct you...

What Is Responsibility And How To Clarify It

by KosjenkaM | 2.Oct. 2020 | Integrity

For me, healthy responsibility is primarily an expression of love. We want to do things well and with long-term good consequences because we care about the person or people in question (or animals or the planet). But, like everything else in human lives and emotions,...