异地恋成功的 6 个技巧

技术使异地恋更容易开始和维持。另一方面，由于人们对抱负和流动性的期望越来越高，即伴侣中的任何一方都有可能在远离另一方的地方找到工作，这也会对异地恋产生负面影响。

以下是异地恋中最常见的挑战，以及如何应对这些挑战的建议：

评估兼容性

A common danger is that the couple, when they are together, focus on having a good time rather than exploring how compatible they really are. Later, if they start living together, they might end up unpleasantly surprised by all the incompatibilities they previously ignored or didn’t have a chance to notice. Therefore, it’s important to deliberately initiate conversations about values, habits, lifestyle, and expectations. (See also: 为结婚或同居做准备)

Don’t sweep small confusions and frustrations under the carpet. Opening up about possible serious incompatibilities is always scary and difficult at first, and you might be afraid of losing the relationship. However, consider if it would be even worth keeping a relationship, if you couldn’t feel safe communicating your values and concerns? Such a relationship would fail sooner or later. The longer it persists before ending, the more heartache and wasted time you will suffer. Therefore, gather your courage and self-support, and address problems before they get worse. In a long-distance relationship, such challenging conversations might be easy to avoid, but avoiding doesn’t pay off in the long run.

“Distance makes the heart grow fonder”

有些人会被无法得到或不太容易得到的恋爱对象所吸引，无论是出于 惧内或其他潜在的情绪模式。(另请参见 爱情关系中的模式.)距离会让一些人把另一半理想化，把自己的幻想投射到对方身上，而不是看清对方。如果你觉得自己可能就是这种情况，上一段中的建议也同样适用。

“Out of sight, out of mind.”

相反，有些人可能会因为在一起的时间越少，就越不经常想起他们的异地恋人，因此对他们的感情也就越少。如果是这种情况，一定要定期保持联系，最好每天都联系，分享想法、笑话、感受和经历，以继续建立情感联系。

事务和不安全

Long-distance relationships (LDRs) can make some people feel insecure because it’s easier for their partner to cheat. There is no guarantee of stability in any relationship. However, there are ways to ease this problem:

a) Avoid LDRs altogether if you don’t trust your partner, yourself, or have an anxious attachment style. (See also: 依恋类型和障碍以及如何治愈它们)

b) 只与在恋爱关系中具有稳定性和承诺性、在日常习惯和行为中通常表现出责任感和一致性的人建立异地恋关系。

c) 确保你们之间有足够的信任，可以轻松地讨论任何诱惑。

d) 避免猜疑和试图控制伴侣。

e) 努力在你们之间建立牢固的情感纽带，这样你的伴侣就会感到充实，不太可能在别处寻求关注。

有一个愿景

Make plans for the future. It’s easier to look forward to the future and commit to the relationship if you trust that there is a future together. However, ensure that neither side sacrifices too much in finding a compromise, as this can lead to resentment that might eventually result in the relationship falling apart.

投资余额

Ensure that the financial burden of visiting each other is shared proportionally. If your incomes are similar, it’s fair that your expenses are similar. However, if there is a significant difference in your incomes, then splitting expenses equally may be disproportionate and out of balance. It is also important that there is balance in the time and effort both partners invest into the relationship. Coming to an agreement on this topic is also part of assessing compatibility and building trust.

In conclusion, successful relationships, whether long-distance or not, require open and honest communication, commitment, and mutual understanding. It’s crucial to address potential compatibility issues early on and avoid ignoring small problems that could escalate over time. For long-distance relationships, maintaining regular communication, building trust, and making future plans together can help overcome challenges and strengthen the bond between partners. Remember to prioritize emotional connection, trust, and shared responsibility. By addressing concerns openly and working together towards common goals, couples can build a strong foundation for a lasting and meaningful relationship, regardless of the physical distance.

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