by KosjenkaM | 19.Jul. 2015 | Communication, Personal growth
Criticism can have different causes, but one often overlooked is fear. Is it difficult for you to set boundaries? Do you have trouble saying “No”, or do you avoid conflicts? If you doubt your ability to defend yourself, you might expect people to know in advance where...
by KosjenkaM | 6.Aug. 2015 | Communication
Among many other details when it comes to relationships and communication, it’s useful to be aware of the difference between two basic ways to express a wish or a request: directing and informing. Directing style expresses a wish, a request or a demand directly: “Shut...
by KosjenkaM | 24.Jul. 2018 | New Articles, Abuse, Communication
Protecting one’s own personal boundaries and finding balance with other people, whether family or strangers, and often in subtle ways, are everyday parts of a human life. Testing and pushing on others’ boundaries is normal in a relationship of a child to a...
by KosjenkaM | 22.Oct. 2019 | New Articles, Communication, Self-esteem
The instinct to belong Human beings have an instinctive need to be accepted by and feel connected to others. We are singularly unequipped to survive by ourselves, and working together as tribes was essential for our very survival as a species. Through most of human...
by KosjenkaM | 22.Apr. 2020 | Love & Intimacy, Communication, New Articles
Every relationship has its problems and it is not realistic to think we will always have an understanding, agreement and an idyllic relationship with a partner. A relatively common problem is when one person expects that they shouldn’t have to express their...
by KosjenkaM | 25.Aug. 2021 | Communication
Why do we fall for manipulation It can be difficult to resist manipulation if we believe our strong emotions are realistic. Most people seem to believe that the more intense their emotion, the more realistic it is. But the reality is often quite the opposite (except...
