Comment arrêter de penser que personne ne m'aimera jamais ?

Question: I’m lonely and feel unattractive. I have difficulties connecting with people. How can I stop feeling that no one will ever love me?

Réponse: Did you feel loved as a child? Our expectations of the world are based on our experiences with our parents. People who felt loved as children, usually expect to be loved as adults, too, and don’t get discouraged even if there is a period of loneliness in their life. People who weren’t loved enough or in a healthy way by their parents, expect a similar treatment by the rest of the world.

What we expect deep inside, we communicate non-verbally and people respond to that. People treat us the way we treat ourselves, and we treat ourselves the way our parents did. Of course, it can also be difficult to interact with other people in a confident and interested way, if you couldn’t feel safe to do it with your parents.

If you think physical looks are the problem, I know a number of people who are physically unattractive and believed that they’d never find partners, but when they worked on loving themselves anyway, and got busy making their lives happy rather than waiting for something to happen, they eventually found great partners. People respond to our character and how we feel, not how we look. At least people worth being with.

Il peut être intéressant d'examiner honnêtement votre communication non verbale, la manière dont vous interagissez avec les gens et ce que vous ressentez généralement à leur égard, afin de déterminer s'il y a quelque chose en vous que les autres pourraient trouver décourageant. N'oubliez pas que les gens sont plus attirés par les personnes qui leur manifestent un intérêt sincère. Plus d'informations sur ce sujet dans Comment surmonter le rejet social et la gêne.

We recommend our guided meditation “Heal Childhood Programming for Empowerment And Self-love” on ce lien. It’s designed to help you heal your past memories an adopt a healthier perception of yourself.

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