虐待 - 综合系统辅导

与施虐者和受虐者合作

由 KosjenkaM | 3.4 月. 2018 | 新文章, 滥用, 教练

If for whatever reason you are interested to learn about the topic of abuse, I strongly recommend the book “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft. This book is especially useful for dismantling some common myths about what causes abuse and violence...

如何挺身而出

由 KosjenkaM | 24.7 月. 2018 | 新文章, 滥用, 交流

Protecting one’s own personal boundaries and finding balance with other people, whether family or strangers, and often in subtle ways, are everyday parts of a human life. Testing and pushing on others’ boundaries is normal in a relationship of a child to a...

如何真正宽恕并被宽恕？

由 KosjenkaM | 4.9 月. 2019 | 情绪健康, 滥用, 诚信

为什么有时宽恕会如此困难？许多新纪元和自助书籍都说，要想获得内心的平静，我们必须原谅伤害过我们的人。关于如何真正做到这一点，常见的说法是：只要决定原谅！或者他们可能会指导你...

您是否正在遭受虐待？

由 KosjenkaM | 8.9 月. 2019 | 滥用

photo by: Daniele Levis Pelusi What is “normal”? When I was in my first year at uni, we had a discussion about what is actually a behavioral disorder. Long story short, the professor’s conclusion was that a behavioral disorder is defined not...

好人会成为施虐者吗？

由 KosjenkaM | 7.11 月. 2022 | 滥用

How and why can good people be abusers? In short: yes, it is sometimes possible for otherwise good people to be abusers in close relationships. I had (at least) one such in my family; I worked as a coach with several of them. Although I don’t specialize in abuse...

如何摆脱创伤束缚

由 KosjenkaM | 4.8 月. 2024 | 滥用, 教练, 个人成长

Question: Close to a year ago, I got out of an abusive relationship. However, I still feel a deep connection with my ex. It’s difficult to stop thinking about them and wishing they could change. I read it’s called trauma bond. But why does it persist for...