Is it OK to end a relationship if I’m no longer happy?

? KosjenkaM | 4.8 ?. 2024 | 爱与亲密关系

From Q&A section: Is it justifiable to end a relationship solely because I’m no longer happy, even if my partner has not done anything wrong?

Answer:

There are plenty of people around who parted on friendly terms and without blame for their exes. Maybe they realized they weren?t compatible enough, maybe they felt more like siblings, or friends, or even a parent and a child than lovers, maybe they felt something important to them was missing, maybe they grew in different directions. So yes, that?s perfectly normal. If you feel guilty about it, consider whether you were raised to ignore your own needs and sacrifice yourself for others. Lack of balance ? even in terms of selflessness ? is not healthy.

On the other hand, it?s also a good idea to look inside and explore why you were unhappy. Was it something from what I mentioned above, or are you perhaps searching for drama and adrenaline, confusing it with love? Maybe you are unhappy with yourself and expect others to make you happy (which nobody can do, so everybody would disappoint you in the end). Maybe if you don?t appreciate yourself, it?s also difficult to appreciate other people. Did the internet, games, and such teach you to expect perfection and easy solutions for everything? Do you have communication issues that contribute to the lack of satisfaction in your relationship? Is there some sort of subconscious need to sabotage your happiness? If any of this is true, you?d repeat the same pattern in any new relationship, sooner or later.

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