?You are ?!? Unveiling the Dark Sides of Praise

? | 16.10 ?. 2023 | 新文章, 交流, Family and children


Author: Christian Rook

Art: Philippe Ramette




Imagine a shopfloor where the teamleader only praises the operators who consistently deliver good work while overlooking the effort and improvement of those who are struggling. This neglect of genuine recognition can discourage struggling person and perpetuate a culture of comparison and judgment.

Imagine, an employee who consistently receives praise for his/her work may eventually become complacent and stagnate. Without constructive feedback and encouragement to take on new challenges, their growth and potential may be hindered, ultimately affecting the overall success of the team.

Praise is often seen as a positive form of communication to show appreciation and recognize achievements. However, it is essential to acknowledge that praise can have its darker aspects and unintended consequences.

Let?s explore the negative effects of praise, the judgment it brings, the hierarchical undertones, and the need for alternative forms of communication to express appreciation and respect.

Praise often comes with an implicit judgment attached to it. When we praise someone, we inevitably create a comparison, suggesting that their accomplishment is superior to others’. This creates a sense of competition and can undermine collaboration, fostering an unhealthy environment where people relentlessly seek recognition rather than focusing on growth and self-improvement.

Praise can reinforce hierarchical structures within organizations or social circles. When praise is bestowed by someone in a position of power or authority, it magnifies the existing power imbalances. This not only stifles creativity and innovation but also limits the confidence and contribution of individuals lower in the hierarchy, as they may feel their achievements are not as valued.

Praise can be misleading, as it often focuses solely on the external outcome rather than the process or effort involved. This can lead to a superficial understanding of someone’s achievements, neglecting the hard work, dedication, and personal growth that went into it. Consequently, individuals may feel misunderstood and undervalued, which can be demotivating.

Praise can also hinder personal growth and development. When we constantly seek praise, we become reliant on external validation, rather than cultivating an intrinsic motivation for our work. This dependency can stifle creativity and discourage taking risks, as individuals fear failure and losing the praise they have grown accustomed to.

To forge stronger connections and foster genuine appreciation and understanding, it is crucial to explore alternative forms of communication. Instead of solely relying on praise, expressing gratitude and providing constructive feedback can be more meaningful. By offering specific acknowledgments of what was done and highlighting the effort, we can foster a deeper sense of appreciation and respect.



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科斯扬卡-穆克

科斯扬卡-穆克

我是一名整合系统教练培训师和特殊教育教师。我在 10 个国家举办过工作坊和讲座,并帮助五大洲 20 多个国家的数百人(在线和离线)找到了情绪模式的解决方案。我撰写了《日常生活中的情感成熟》一书以及相关的系列工作手册。

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