by KosjenkaM | 3.Apr. 2018 | New Articles, Abuse, Coaching
If for whatever reason you are interested to learn about the topic of abuse, I strongly recommend the book “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft. This book is especially useful for dismantling some common myths about what causes abuse and violence...
by KosjenkaM | 24.Jul. 2018 | New Articles, Abuse, Communication
Protecting one’s own personal boundaries and finding balance with other people, whether family or strangers, and often in subtle ways, are everyday parts of a human life. Testing and pushing on others’ boundaries is normal in a relationship of a child to a...
by KosjenkaM | 4.Sep. 2019 | Emotional wellbeing, Abuse, Integrity
Why is it sometimes so difficult to forgive? Many New Age and self-help books say that, to achieve inner peace, we have to forgive people who hurt us. A common message about how to actually do it is something like: just decide to forgive! Or they might instruct you...
by KosjenkaM | 8.Sep. 2019 | Abuse
photo by: Daniele Levis Pelusi What is “normal”? When I was in my first year at uni, we had a discussion about what is actually a behavioral disorder. Long story short, the professor’s conclusion was that a behavioral disorder is defined not...
by KosjenkaM | 7.Nov. 2022 | Abuse
How and why can good people be abusers? In short: yes, it is sometimes possible for otherwise good people to be abusers in close relationships. I had (at least) one such in my family; I worked as a coach with several of them. Although I don’t specialize in abuse...
by KosjenkaM | 4.Aug. 2024 | Abuse, Coaching, Personal growth
Question: Close to a year ago, I got out of an abusive relationship. However, I still feel a deep connection with my ex. It’s difficult to stop thinking about them and wishing they could change. I read it’s called trauma bond. But why does it persist for...
