Abuse - Integrative Systemic Coaching

How To Recognize Emotional Blackmail?

by KosjenkaM | 10.May. 2010 | Communication, Abuse

Manipulation by definition presumes covert attempt to control others, usually involving twisting facts and using words in ways that might be difficult to distinguish from honest communication. That’s why people are often confused whether they...

The Gift of Fear (And Some Memories)

by KosjenkaM | 10.May. 2014 | Emotional wellbeing, Abuse

“Intuition is always right in at least two important ways:1. It is always in response to something.2. It always has your best interest at heart.(…) Our interpretation of intuition is not always right.”Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear This time I want to...

Lessons From the Past

by KosjenkaM | 2.Jun. 2015 | Abuse, Society

Working with some young clients lately got me thinking about myself in the same age, when I just arrived to a big city to study. More and more often these days, I see those memories as if looking at somebody else rather than identifying with my younger self and seeing...

Do You Feel Taken For Granted? Abuse And Unconditional Love

by KosjenkaM | 8.Jul. 2015 | Love & Intimacy, Abuse

A common pattern in unhealthy relationships is when (at least) one of the partners takes the other for granted, perhaps being aggressive, manipulative or dismissive – but when the other partner decides to leave, the first suddenly starts acting like an...

Red Flags in Relationships

by KosjenkaM | 23.Feb. 2016 | Love & Intimacy, Abuse

Incompatibility is fairly common in relationships, which means there are plenty of potential red flags of incompatibility depending of one’s values and personal traits. However, sometimes you might not simply be incompatible with a love interest, but you might...

Are You a Flying Monkey? (And How To Avoid Being One)

by KosjenkaM | 20.Mar. 2018 | New Articles, Abuse, Integrity

What is “a flying monkey”? The expression “flying monkey” originates from the book “The Wizard of Oz”, in which a group of winged monkeys serves an evil witch and executes her destructive commands. In real life, it describes...