誰からも愛されないと感じるのをやめるにはどうしたらいいのだろう？

質問: I’m lonely and feel unattractive. I have difficulties connecting with people. How can I stop feeling that no one will ever love me?

回答: Did you feel loved as a child? Our expectations of the world are based on our experiences with our parents. People who felt loved as children, usually expect to be loved as adults, too, and don’t get discouraged even if there is a period of loneliness in their life. People who weren’t loved enough or in a healthy way by their parents, expect a similar treatment by the rest of the world.

What we expect deep inside, we communicate non-verbally and people respond to that. People treat us the way we treat ourselves, and we treat ourselves the way our parents did. Of course, it can also be difficult to interact with other people in a confident and interested way, if you couldn’t feel safe to do it with your parents.

If you think physical looks are the problem, I know a number of people who are physically unattractive and believed that they’d never find partners, but when they worked on loving themselves anyway, and got busy making their lives happy rather than waiting for something to happen, they eventually found great partners. People respond to our character and how we feel, not how we look. At least people worth being with.

自分の非言語的なコミュニケーションや、人との接し方、一般的な人に対する気持ちを正直に見つめ直し、他の人ががっかりするようなことが自分にないかを探してみる価値があるかもしれない。人は、自分に純粋な関心を示してくれる人に最も惹かれるということを覚えておいてほしい。このトピックについては 社会的拒絶と気まずさを克服する方法.

We recommend our guided meditation “Heal Childhood Programming for Empowerment And Self-love” on このリンク. It’s designed to help you heal your past memories an adopt a healthier perception of yourself.

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