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What Happens When a Love Partner Is a Parental Substitute?

by KosjenkaM | 31.May. 2018 | Love & Intimacy

Trying to change a partner When I work with couples (and individuals, too), in their bitter criticisms of their partners I can often guess what a person wanted to say to their parents, but for whatever reasons couldn’t or didn’t dare. (Sometimes I...

How To Stand Up For Yourself

by KosjenkaM | 24.Jul. 2018 | New Articles, Abuse, Communication

Protecting one’s own personal boundaries and finding balance with other people, whether family or strangers, and often in subtle ways, are everyday parts of a human life. Testing and pushing on others’ boundaries is normal in a relationship of a child to a...

Turn Emotional Pain Into Passion And Inspiration

by KosjenkaM | 1.May. 2019 | Emotional wellbeing, Inspiration, Integrity, New Articles, Personal growth, Recommended Articles

Physical pain is a signal that something is wrong. Our automatic reaction is to reduce it as soon as possible. It makes sense that we react in the same way to emotional pain. Besides, we are conditioned by our communities and culture to avoid unpleasant emotions, hide...

When Hope is a “Negative” Emotion

by KosjenkaM | 6.May. 2019 | Emotional wellbeing, Coaching, New Articles

Some time ago, I was working with a woman in USA who has a private business in which she is very engaged, creative and responsible, and potentially very successful. Still, things were going downhill, primarily because of her relationships with her employees...

Affairs: Who, Why, And How To Move On

by KosjenkaM | 19.Jun. 2019 | Love & Intimacy, New Articles

The paradox of (in)security Deep closeness and understanding in a good lasting relationship is one of the best experiences in life. On the other side, the idea that we can “own” someone’s emotions, or that we can control life, is unrealistic and...