Alternatives © Martyn Carruthers

Online Systemic Coaching, Counseling & Therapy

If you, a family member or friend is diagnosed with cancer, this will affect your life.
We help people through the emotions associated with cancer.

Effective solutions require motivation, responsibility and a desire to change.

1. What is Cancer?

If cells in a body tissue reproduce without control, the symptoms are called cancer. Over a hundred diseases are characterized by uncontrolled cell growth. Cancers can develop in almost any part of your body and are leading causes of death worldwide.

Yet satisfying relationships, healthy diets and daily exercises
can reduce the risk of cancer by more than 60%.

Cancers can be classified as Benign and Malignant, depending on whether the growing cells damage essential organs. Some cancers result from toxins, some from autoimmune disease, while others can best be classed as psychosomatic.

Benign tumors stay in one location and do not invade other tissues, which simplifies surgical removal. Some benign tumors are harmless and are not removed unless they are unsightly or uncomfortable.

Malignant tumor cells can grow into local tissues or travel through blood or lymph vessels to form cancers in other organs, often in nearby lymph glands.

2. Causes of Cancer: Risk Factors

Many cancers appear to be triggered by prolonged or repeated exposure to chemical, biological, or physical agents called carcinogens. The risk of cancer is increased by consuming or inhaling carcinogens.

However, the underlying causes of cancer seem to include emotional problems, usually originating in family and workplace relationships. Our alternative cures for cancer focus primarily on resolving emotional problems and relationship issues that appear to be related to autoimmune diseases and cancers.

3. Systemic (Relationship) Causes of Cancer

Cancers can sometimes be perceived as toxic family traditions rather than as genetically inherited diseases. A cancer may be a way for a person to follow an ancestor or relative who died of cancer. This might seem strange, but is a possible consequence of a relationship problem with a dead person (e.g. with a relative who died of cancer, was murdered or who committed suicide).

Some people want to die –  perhaps they have nothing left to live for, no unaccomplished goals or (most of all) no important satisfying relationships. Sometimes cancer may seem like a way for such people to leave life without committing suicide.

4. Cancer Prevention

Most cancer deaths are preventable. Although most cancer risk factors are very well known, these risk factors are often ignored. We help people maintain emotionally healthy lifestyles and healthy relationships.

5. Emotional Complications of Cancer

Emotions can affect the treatment of cancer. Emotional difficulties may contribute to poor metabolic control – which can trigger further psychological problems. Some common factors affecting cancer patients can be remedied with our systemic counseling:

  • Objections to prescribed treatments
  • Managing emotions, limiting beliefs and stress
  • Relationships with family, friends and helping professionals

People with cancer may have severe mood swings. They may be unaware of these swings; in each moment acting as if their current emotions are a basis for long-term decisions. During these times, their relationships may be under severe stress. They may say that they feel normal, yet say horrible things to people who are important to them.

We assist and support people to deal with strong emotions and help people improve the quality of their relationships, even through difficult times.

6. Managing Emotions, Beliefs & Stress

While experiencing emotions is a normal part of life, expressing anger, sadness, guilt, shame and fear can be stressful. People who express these childishly can create chaos – both internally and with important people.

If unpleasant emotions are experienced but not expressed, people may withhold stress within their bodies and worsen their symptoms. We help people manage and express their emotions appropriately.

Relationship Beliefs

We help people explore their family structures, and change beliefs which prevent or sabotage change or emotional freedom. Examples are:

  • I cannot change (I lack motivation)
  • Nothing can change (I am entangled)
  • I follow sick role models (I am inspired to fail)
  • I must stay in unpleasant states (I am traumatized)
  • I cannot make a decision (I cannot resolve conflicts)
  • I sabotage myself (I limit my opportunities for happiness)
  • I feel bad if I succeed (My family or friends do not succeed)

Common Reasons for Suffering

Beliefs & Emotions

Beliefs about the cause of cancer, its seriousness and the effectiveness or prescribed treatment can assist or detract from medical treatment. People with cancer are likely to suffer from depression, which may reduce the desire to follow a treatment. If a person feels guilt or shame, staying alive may not seem to make sense, which leads to depression.

Contact us for solutions for guilt, anxiety and depression.

Fear of complications or shortened life

Fear can paralyze people into acting as though death is inevitable and that nothing can be done. Our systemic coaching offers you emotional management programs to control unpleasant emotions. Emotional stress can disrupt metabolic control. We help people manage emotions associated with the risk of early death and sometimes-painful cancer treatments. See: Stress, Anxiety and Trauma

While many people diagnosed with inoperable malignant cancers will likely die, we often help people prepare for the transition between life and death, and to complete their important relationships while they are alive.

Consult your physician about any medical symptoms or medical conditions.

We support healthy behaviors, such as diet, physical activity, increasing knowledge and improving skills. We help people live full lives, enjoy emotional wellbeing and life activities (e.g. educational and vocational goals, recreational activities).


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