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Online Life Coaching, Counseling & Mentorship

It’s easier for health professionals and most patients to use drugs as a substitute for change. Self-medication with alcohol or nicotine, or prescription anti-depressants and stimulants, is easier than applying intelligence, focus and analytical skills to complex relationship situations. Drugs are also cheaper for patients (in the short term) and much more profitable for health professionals.

Our Systemic Psychology

We help people assess and change individual and relationship behavior – and the behavior of people in families, teams and other important relationships. Our systemic psychotherapy is not psychotherapy, psychiatry nor medicine – and we help both patients and care givers.

We help people gain insights and emotional stability that can provide many benefits. We assume that illness and disease are functional, and provide benefits that outweigh the disadvantages. This implies that illness or diseases are not random and chaotic, rather that disease can be perceived as communication. What does a disease say for you – that you will not say?

Disease Symptoms

Many diseases are diseases of lifestyle, such as drug abuse and obesity; and their complications (e.g. heart disease, cancers & adult-onset diabetes.) Health coaching can help people prevent disease, and deal with disease symptoms, and can provide emotional support during difficult times.

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Systemic diseases interfere with the normal structure or function of a human system. A systemic disease may manifest as toxic relationship conflicts, codependence, symbiosis or relationship bonds. Systemic coaching can help people improve relationships – even during emotional stress or physical disease.


Health & Systemic Coaching

Disease in a family can challenge all family members. If you or a member of your family has been diagnosed with serious disease, it will affect all of your lives. This page describes health and disease, common emotional complications and ways of improving health with systemic coaching.

Good health is often described as an absence of pain or suffering. We describe health as a state of physical and mental wellbeing – a sense of integrity and wholeness – an experience of connectedness that transcends physical sensations or emotions.

We can motivate and support you, and help you identify your strengths and expose what holds you back. We can help you see your way, to discover the creative solutions you need to achieve your goals. We provide a helping hand – or a helping foot!

Pain Free Living & Pain Coaching

Pain is as unpleasant sensory and emotional experience caused by real or imaginary injury or damage to the body. Pain warns of injury; and protects against further injury by motivating withdrawal from the source of injury. Pain also leads to reduced activity, which may enable injuries to heal.

Pain also has emotional, relationship or psychological components. Some people express extreme discomfort from relatively minor injuries, while others express little or no pain after a severe injury. Sometimes pain is present even though no trauma is apparent, or after an injury has healed.

Fast Pain Control . Long Term Pain Relief

Birth is suffering; decay is suffering; death is suffering; sorrow, lamentation, pain, grief, and despair, are suffering; not to get what one desires, is suffering …

Buddha (About 500 BC)


Suffering does not ennoble; it degrades. It makes men selfish, mean, petty and suspicious. It absorbs them in small things … it makes them less than men.

Somerset Maugham (1874 – 1965)

Psychological Effects of Medications

Do any of the following apply to you? Discuss the psychological and emotional side-effects of your medications with a medical doctor.

  • Oral contraceptives may cause or worsen depression
  • Steroids may cause anxiety, depression, mood swings, hallucinations
  • Sleeping drugs may cause memory loss, confusion, difficulty concentrating
  • Decongestants and appetite suppressants may cause anxiety
  • Ulcer drugs may cause depression

Side Effects of Prescription Drugs

Coaching & Mental Health

Many health professionals use the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV) or the International Classification of Diseases (ICD), which define mental illnesses by symptoms and characteristics. However, the described symptoms often overlap, differ from person to person, and people may simultaneously display more than one set of recognizable characteristics.

We do not treat physical nor mental illness. We explore what you want; and help you identify any relevant challenges or blocks. We can help you define healthy goals and overcome obstacles that prevent you fulfilling your goals.

Consult a physician about any opinions about medical medical conditions.

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