Abuse - Integrative Systemic Coaching

Working With Abusers and Victims of Abuse

by KosjenkaM | 3.अप्रैल. 2018 | New Articles, Abuse, Coaching

If for whatever reason you are interested to learn about the topic of abuse, I strongly recommend the book “Why Does He Do That?” by Lundy Bancroft. This book is especially useful for dismantling some common myths about what causes abuse and violence...

How To Stand Up For Yourself

by KosjenkaM | 24.जुलाई. 2018 | New Articles, Abuse, Communication

Protecting one’s own personal boundaries and finding balance with other people, whether family or strangers, and often in subtle ways, are everyday parts of a human life. Testing and pushing on others’ boundaries is normal in a relationship of a child to a...

How To Truly Forgive And Be Forgiven?

by KosjenkaM | 4.सितम्बर. 2019 | Emotional wellbeing, Abuse, Integrity

Why is it sometimes so difficult to forgive? Many New Age and self-help books say that, to achieve inner peace, we have to forgive people who hurt us. A common message about how to actually do it is something like: just decide to forgive! Or they might instruct you...

Are You Being Abused?

by KosjenkaM | 8.सितम्बर. 2019 | Abuse

photo by: Daniele Levis Pelusi What is “normal”? When I was in my first year at uni, we had a discussion about what is actually a behavioral disorder. Long story short, the professor’s conclusion was that a behavioral disorder is defined not...

Can Good People Be Abusers?

by KosjenkaM | 7.नवम्बर. 2022 | Abuse

How and why can good people be abusers? In short: yes, it is sometimes possible for otherwise good people to be abusers in close relationships. I had (at least) one such in my family; I worked as a coach with several of them. Although I don’t specialize in abuse...

How to break Free from Trauma Bond

by KosjenkaM | 4.अगस्त. 2024 | Abuse, Coaching, Personal growth

Question: Close to a year ago, I got out of an abusive relationship. However, I still feel a deep connection with my ex. It’s difficult to stop thinking about them and wishing they could change. I read it’s called trauma bond. But why does it persist for...